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Are you struggling with discipline?
If your answer is YES – you could be making these 3 mistakes. Mistake 1 – Giving SILENT TREATMENT instead of shouting Silent treatment results in - 1. Your child purposely misbehaving to make you shout 2. Your child making the same mistake again because you have not taught them how to correct their mistake Mistake 2 – Giving REWARDS instead of punishment Giving rewards results in – 1. Your child losing the motivation to do anything without a reward. This means you have to shout more. 2. Your child throwing more tantrums and demanding more things Mistake 3 – Giving CONSEQUENCES instead of punishment If you decide the consequences – it is a punishment. Giving consequences results in – 1. Your child lying to get what they want 2. Your child fighting with you to get what you have taken away. QUICK FIX discipline techniques only result in more indiscipline. So how do you discipline your child? 1. Understand why your child made the mistake 2. Teach them how to avoid making the mistake next time 3. Show them how to fix what has gone wrong this time. Focus on BRAIN BUILDING instead of BEHAVIOUR CHANGE. Start PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE Send me a DM if you want to subscribe to my Parenting Blueprint Course. Share this with those who are using these discipline techniques and then complaining that your child is stubborn. Follow me to learn parenting with neuroscience. #parenting #tantrums #rewards #consequences
Are you enjoying parenting?
Or are you exhausted and just waiting for your child to grow up? Do you keep wondering - “When will my child start eating properly?†“When will my child start listening to me?†“When will my child learn?†Then you need to start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. Your child has an incomplete brain. Some parts of their brain are still under construction. When your parenting techniques are not working – understand that you are using roads that are still under construction. That is why you are struggling so much and getting so exhausted. Parenting with neuroscience introduces you to other roads – on which you can travel faster. This makes your journey enjoyable instead of exhausting If you think you deserve to enjoy the parenting journey – start parenting with neuroscience. Send me a message with PB written in it and I will share the details of my “Parenting with Neuroscience†course. Share this with other exhausted parents and do your bit to make parenting more fun for everyone. Follow me for more.
​No parent ever wants their child to get dehydrated.
In fact, the amazing parent that you are – you are surely doing your best to prevent dehydration. But if you are following what other people are saying or doing without checking if it is the right thing to do, you may be making these 5 mistakes And causing dehydration while you are trying to prevent it. Mistake 1 – Giving your child juice or any sweetened drink to prevent dehydration. Sweetened drinks may cause dehydration instead of preventing it Plain water is the best for your child Mistake 2 – Thinking your child is hydrated because they are swimming Swimming causes dehydration without thirst. Always ensure that your child drinks water before, during and after swimming. Always stay alert for dehydration induced cramps when your child is swimming. Mistake 3 – Thinking you are preventing dehydration by keeping your child in air conditioned spaces Dehydration is extremely common when children stay in A/C environments for a long periods. Insist that your child drinks water even if they are not thirsty. In fact, the lack of thirst is a sign of dehydration Mistake 4 – Thinking your child is disobedient when they don’t listen to you in the heat. Confusion, irritability and tantrums can be due to dehydration. If you are at an event where it is hot, do not dress your child up in heavy clothes and jewellery. Keep a close watch on them and periodically offer water. Mistake 5 – Taking children out to the beach as soon as you reach your holiday destination If your child is not used to the heat they can get dehydrated very quickly in a hot place. Take a day or two to adjust to the heat and slowly increase the period of exposure to heat. Are you making these mistakes? Type WATER and stop now!! Thousands of parents are making these mistakes. Share this on your stories with #summer to warn them Follow me for more. #parenting #summer #vacation #dehydration
​Iron deficiency can affect brain development
Growing children are at high risk of developing iron deficiency Here is a list of some iron rich foods that you can give your child Leaves of – Spinach, Amranth, Beet, Cauliflower, Keerai, Mustard, Parsley, Radish, Turnip Chickpeas, cowpeas, horse gram, soyabean and peas Rice bran, wheat germ, bajra (pearl millet) and samai (little millet). Garden cress seeds (aliv), Niger seeds, gingelly seeds and mustard seeds Dates and pistachios. Type IRON and always be alert for iron deficiency Share this now To help other children who may be suffering Follow me for more #irondeficiencyanemia #braindevelopment #ironrichfoods
Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?
That is a mistake It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time. But that is not good for your child . When your child argues – they BUILD THEIR BRAIN And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like - CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY Yes!! To argue – your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem If you get angry and upset when your child argues – you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills. Don’t get angry Don’t agree Don’t ignore. Instead – follow these 5 steps – 1. LISTEN calmly – set a good example 2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset – that will calm them down 3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution – it will encourage them to think 4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better – to teach communication skills 5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground – to teach conflict resolution Every conflict is an opportunity to – 1. Understand your child 2. Build their brain 3. Strengthen your relationship. Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting. Be the adult in the relationship Share this so that those who criticize your child for arguing see this and change. Follow me for more. #parenting #arguments #criticalthinking #creativity#communication #teens #preteens
If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem
Involve them in household chores Even toddlers can do many chores When a child does chores it helps them to feel CAPABLE CONFIDENT IMPORTANT This makes them feel happy and become responsible But When we give children reward points for doing chores it takes all this away. As soon as Rewards are introduced, your child starts doing the chores for Rewards. The happiness they should feel Because they are contributing to the family is replaced by the anxiety of losing the reward. The responsibility they would otherwise have developed is replaced by greed. And to add to it they feel shame Because the chart is publicly displayed A whole range of negative emotions replaces the positive emotions that chores are supposed to generate. And this leads to low self-esteem Do you use reward charts? Type YES or NO. Stop using then now. Share this to help other parents understand this too. Follow me for more #parenting #rewardchart #chores #selfesteem
There are 3 PARENTING MISTAKES that can affect your BABY’S BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
Neuroscience says that babies need 3Ts for their brains to grow. But many times, because we are gripped by parenting peer pressure. We try to do all kinds of other things to grow our baby’s brain. And miss out on these 3 important Ts. The first T is TALK New parents, especially new moms are exhausted. They are also judged a lot and loaded with lots of expectations. They are criticized if their house is messy, they are criticized if their baby cries, they are criticized if they don’t look good, they are criticized if they don’t show their baby brain development flash cards. They do everything they can to avoid criticism. And this leaves them with no time and energy to talk to their baby. But NEUROSCIENCE says brains are built by talking to babies. Ignore all the criticism and start talking to your baby. The second T is TUMMY TIME Most new parents are afraid of infections and injuries – so they keep their babies far away from the floor. But time on the floor is most important for brain development. Tummy time builds neck control, facilitates exploration and also builds immunity. Keep the floor clean. Watch your baby carefully during tummy time. Then allow and encourage lots of tummy time. The third T is Thumb Sucking New parents, especially new moms are advised by every person they know, to prevent their baby from sucking their thumb. If they listen to their instincts and allow thumb sucking – they are criticized and scolded. Because of this they do not allow thumb sucking But thumb sucking is important to build emotional regulation, motor skills and hand to eye coordination. Remove the mittens and allow thumb sucking. STOP LISTENING to OTHERS and damaging your baby’s brain. They will later criticize you anyway when your baby cries and lot or walks or talks late Type 3T and become part of the BRAIN DEVELOPMENT REVOLUTION by following the 3Ts no matter what anyone says. Share this so that those who give wrong advice see it and realize what they are doing wrong. Follow me for more. #parenting #braindevelopment #milestones ​
Are you worried about your child’s poor performance in school?
Do you want to turn your child’s FAILURE Into SUCCESS Then Replace FEAR with FUN When you teach. When children FAIL at something they are filled with FEAR. Scolding them and increasing their FEAR makes things worse FEAR makes their brain shut down And they don’t learn what they can do to change their FAILURE Into SUCCESS Every FAILURE can be a Stepping Stone to SUCCESS Replace FEAR with FUN When you teach your child what to do to be SUCCESSFUL next time #parenting #fearoffailure #success
Does your child keep falling sick?
Have you done everything you can to improve your child’s immunity? But despite everything, does your child still fall sick? If your answer is yes – then you need to ask yourself this – “Is my child STRESSED?†Yes. STRESS can lower immunity and cause repeated illness. But childhood is supposed to be stress free. Can a child really be stressed? The answer is yes. Here are some things that lead to stress. 1. Shouting / Hitting / Punishing your child. You may be doing it to teach your child the right thing. But these methods of discipline cause stress. And stress causes illness 2. Force feeding. You may be force feeding your child to ensure that they get all the nutrients that they need to stay healthy and grow. But your forcing is causing stress. And stress causes illness – no matter what your child eats. 3. Device use Do you give your child a device to keep them calm and make them happy? But devices cause stress. And stress causes illness So many parents do all the above things because they love their children very much and want to do the best for them. Their intentions are good – but they end up causing stress and illness. Don’t just do what other parents are doing. It is doing more harm than good. Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. To learn parenting with neuroscience – you can subscribe to my Parenting Blueprint course for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds. Send me message with PB written and I will share the course details and payment link with you #parentingwithneuroscience #stress
Are you upset that your child does not listen to you?
Then you need this NEUROSCIENCE based 5S formula – The 1st S is – SMILE. If you smile a lot, your child will like you. Since all of us listen to people whom we like, this will ensure that your child listens to you. If you go close to your child, look into their eyes, smile, and say something, they will definitely listen to you. The 2nd S is SYNC If your child is busy doing something – first join them in doing that. Once you are in sync with your child because of the activity you are doing together, tell your child what you want them to do. They will listen. The 3rd S is SINGLE Give only one instruction at a time if you want your child to listen to you. Children have short memories and are easily distracted. If you give too many instructions at once they can’t listen to you The 4th S is SING When you want to get your child’s attention, sing out their name instead of shouting. Children pay more attention to high frequency sounds. The 5th S is STORY Every day tell your child a story. This will get them into the habit of listening to you. The 5S formula turns HEARING into LISTENING. Are you ready to see its magic? Type SAY and start speaking with the 5S formula today. Share this so that others who call your child disobedient see this and realize that they need to stop blaming your child and change the way they speak. Follow me to learn PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. |
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