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​Are worried that your child is not FOCUSING?
Then see if you are making these 5 BIG MISTAKES MISTAKE 1 Asking your child “WHAT ARE YOU DOING†when they are doing something with FULL FOCUS. Stop now! Interrupting children destroys their focus. Do this – • Watch in silence • Ask questions with interest when they come to you to show you what they have done MISTAKE 2 Telling your child “DO IT LIKE THIS – NOT LIKE THAT†when they are trying to do something Stop now! Trying and discovering how to do something requires intense focus. Showing your child how to do things the right way all the time robs them of the opportunity to focus intensely and build focus. Do this – • Allow your child to make mistakes and learn from them • Give them a small suggestion if you see them getting frustrated MISTAKE 3 Praising your child while they are doing something and saying “OH THIS IS SO NICE†Stop now! Praise shifts them from intrinsic motivation to extrinsic motivation. The level of focus is not deep when the motivation is extrinsic. • Wait in silence until your child finishes • Motivate them with a smile when they look at you • Appreciate what they have done when they ask you MISTAKE 4 Repeatedly telling your child “DON’T MAKE A MESS†Dividing their focus between what they are doing and the mess they must not create – results in your child’s focus becoming half of what it is • Allow your child to make a mess as long as it is not harming them • Never shout at them for making a mess MISTAKE 5 Insisting that your child does what you want them to do and not what they want to do saying “DO THIS NOT THAT†When your child does something they want to do – they are intensely focused. The focus is not as deep when they do something you want them to do. Do this - • Tune in to what your child is doing • Teach your child what you want to teach them through what they are already doing FOCUS IS THE SECRET TO SUCCESS Of course, you want your child to succeed – but because you are not PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE you could be destroying your child’s chances of being SUCCESSFUL by making these mistakes START PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE. Send me a DM saying PB if you want to join my course
You are SPOILING your child with TOO MUCH LOVE
Have you been told that by your family members? And has that made you feel like a bad mother/ father? Then this is what you need to understand about LOVE YOU CAN NEVER SPOIL YOUR CHILD WITH TOO MUCH LOVE. You can only spoil your child when you give PRESENTS because you feel GUILTY about not having TIME You can only spoil your child when you BRIBE them to do things they don’t want to do so that you can get your work done QUICKLY You can only spoil your child when you give them ANYTHING to end their TANTRUMS because you are too BUSY to console them So your child is not getting SPOILT because of your LOVE Your child is getting SPOILT because of your - 1. Your GUILT because you are not giving them TIME and ATTENTION 2. Your HURRY to get things done because you can't spend TIME convincing them 3. Your IRRITATION with their CRYING and TANTRUMS and your desire to end their tantrums without spending TIME So the problem is that you don't have TIME But does PARENTING require all your TIME? No Just start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE DM me with PB in the message text if you want details of my PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE course for the parents of 0 to 7 year olds. Share this with those who give your child GIFTS and BRIBES and then say that you are spoiling your child with too much love Follow me for more
​If I don't tell my child that they are wrong who will tell them?
But then I am scared that criticising them will damage their SELF-ESTEEM And CONFIDENCE So what should I do? Many parents ask me My answer is - Use the SANDWICH TECHNIQUE to criticise your child. That will ensure that your child improves because of your critcism without losing their SELF-ESTEEM And CONFIDENCE So what is the SANDWICH technique? Sandwich the criticism between two layers of appreciation. Like this - Step 1 APPRECIATE That will make them listen Eg. - I really like the way you are learning to ask for what you want nowadays Step 2 SUGGEST CHANGES That will make them think Eg. - But I think if you ask without shouting, you will be more likely to get what you want Step 3 HIGHLIGHT their STRENGTHS That will increase their SELF-ESTEEM And MOTIVATION to change Eg. - You are a very lovable person so you will be able to do this very easily The SANDWICH technique works very well at all ages because it uses NEUROSCIENCE Parenting with Neuroscience makes Parenting easy enjoyable and effective Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE now Share this now and help other parents who may not be using Neuroscience in Parenting Follow me for more. #Parenting #Neuroscience #self-esteem criticism
Sugar is bad for your child.
And Yes!! Almost all your child’s favorite foods ae loaded with sugar You may think things like Tomato sauce Bread Juice Fruit yogurt Are healthy. But they are not They are all full of sugar Many times foods have sugar but it is called by a different name to confuse you and make you believe that the food has no sugar and is therefore good for your child. Save the list below on your phone and if you see any of the names below on the label of a food that you are buying for your child - DO NOT BUY IT. Share this so that others who may buy your child foods that they love realize that If they REALLY want to show their love - they must not give your child any food that has sugar or any of the things in the list below. Agave nectar Barbados sugar Barley malt Barley malt syrup Beet sugar Brown sugar Buttered syrup Cane juice Cane juice crystals Cane sugar Caramel Carob syrup Castor sugar Coconut palm sugar Coconut sugar Confectioner's sugar Corn sweetener Corn syrup Corn syrup solids Date sugar Dehydrated cane juice Demerara sugar Dextrin Dextrose Evaporated cane juice Free-flowing brown sugars Fructose Fruit juice Fruit juice concentrate Glucose Glucose solids Golden sugar Golden syrup Grape sugar HFCS (High-Fructose Corn Syrup) Honey Icing sugar Invert sugar Malt syrup Maltodextrin Maltol Maltose Mannose Maple syrup Molasses Muscovado Palm sugar Panocha Powdered sugar Raw sugar Refiner's syrup Rice syrup Saccharose Sorghum Syrup Sucrose Sugar (granulated) Sweet Sorghum Syrup Treacle Turbinado sugar
​You love your child very much
But your child may think NO ONE LOVES ME Because you constantly scold, criticise and compare them Of course you do it for their own good But do you know?. If you don't show your love your child cannot do their best. How can you show your love? 1. Smile whenever you look at them 2. Hug them whenever you are near them 3. Kiss them whenever you can. Definitely kiss them as soon as they wake up in the morning and before they go to sleep at night. 4. Say - I love you at least 10 times a day 5. Play with them every day LOVE is the FUEL that POWERS your child and BUILDS the BRAIN If you want to do the best for your child SHOW YOUR LOVE Type YES And start showing your love now. Share this so that those who say they CRITICISE and SCOLD and COMPARE your child and say that they doing it out of love - know that they are wrong. Follow me to learn Parenting with Neuroscience #Parenting #love #showyourlove
Let your child cry
Tears are emotions coming out drop by drop When we don't allow emotions to come out as tears They pile up inside your child And come out as an explosion That explosion is called Anger. Anger is more difficult to manage than sadness So let your child cry Type OK and change your approach to crying today Share this on your stories so that those who tell your child not to cry understand that they are wrong and stop criticising your child Follow me to learn Parenting with Neuroscience #parenting #crying #anger #emotionalintelligence
“What makes junk food so attractive to children?â€
This is a question I am often asked at my workshops on #nutrition The answer is multi-layered. There is of course the chemical impact that the ingredients in junk food have on the brain and make it crave more of it. But without a doubt – the physical characteristics of junk food matter as well. Of course, we are not going to add the chemicals that make junk food attractive – when we make healthy food for our children. But can we replicate the physical attributes of junk food when we make healthy food? The answer is YES. Watch my reel to know what you can do. Type 'RECIPE' in comments to get recipes that help you do this. Follow me for more :) #junkfood #parenting #healthyfood #recipes
Before you call your child STUBBORN for NOT LISTENING to you
Understand why your child is not listening. It could be because of any of these 5 reasons – 1. They are used to waiting for you to SHOUT Have you fallen into the pattern of repeatedly asking your child to do something And then ultimately shouting at them Your child may have got used to this pattern and decided to do what you are saying only when you shout. What to do – Stop shouting. Go close to your child and whisper. That will get their attention and make them listen 2. You are always saying NO DON'T DO THAT If you are always stopping your child and telling them not to do what they want to do then you can be sure your child is not listening to you because they know you will stop them from doing what they want to do. What to do – Aim to say only one or two NO s in a day. Reserve it for when your child is doing something dangerous 3. You THREATEN them When you threaten your child you get them into the fighting mode. They get into the mood to push you and see if you actually carry out your threat. That is why they don’t listen to you. What to do – Never THREATEN your child. Involve them in the decision making process so that they themselves do what you are saying because they want to do it. 4. You give ORDERS No one likes to be ordered around. If you keep telling your child – do this – do that – they will surely ignore you What to do – Explain what your child has to do and then allow them to do it their way. Do not micromanage 5. You don’t LISTEN TO THEM Your child will listen to you if you listen to them. What to do - Do the small things that they ask you to do. That will strengthen your relationship. What you say will then be easier for your child to understand and follow. Don’t blame your child for being STUBBORN Type OK and change yourself now Share this with those who do these 5 things and then call your child STUBBORN Follow me for more. #parenting #stubborn
MOBILE ADDICTION is dangerous.
Save your baby’s brain with my 3B formula The first B is BEHAVIOUR Do not give your child a mobile phone to prevent bad behaviour or tantrums. Your child behaves badly or throws tantrums when they have negative emotions. You can drown your child’s negative emotions with a mobile phone and end the tantrum But drowning negative emotions with a mobile phone does not help your child in the long run Your child needs to learn how to manage and overcome negative emotions by themselves Otherwise, your child will become dependent on the mobile and ultimately get addicted. Every time your child has a negative emotion – they will need a device. This can be terrible when they find learning in school difficult. Instead of managing their negative emotions and studying hard to overcome their negative emotions – they will pick up the mobile phone to feel good. When they don’t work hard at studying – they will get poor grades – they will have more negative emotions and need the mobile phone even more. They will be addicted to the mobile. The second B is for BOOST Do not give your child the mobile phone to feed them what they don’t want to eat. Being distracted by the mobile will result in your child’s brain not being comfortable with the taste and texture of food. Whenever they try to eat without the mobile – their brain will reject the taste and texture and therefore the food itself. This will mean that they will always need a mobile to eat. They will be addicted to the mobile. The 3rd B is BOREDOM Never give your child the mobile to overcome boredom. Boredom is stressful. But this stress is essential for the brain to think creatively. Creative thinking is the secret to success. When you relieve your child’s stress due to boredom – your child will not think creatively – will not succeed and will always need the mobile to drown out the negative emotion of not being good enough. Your child will be addicted to the mobile. So now that you know how and why children get addicted to the mobile – type 3B and make sure your child never becomes a mobile addict. Share this now so that those who say “JUST GIVE THE MOBILE - NOTHING WILL HAPPEN†see this reel
Are you struggling with your toddler’s separation anxiety?
Then remember this – IT IS NORMAL FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SEPARATION ANXIETY 1. Your child is programmed to feel anxious when you are not around so that they don’t go far away from you 2. Your child is programmed to cry loudly when they don’t see you so that you hear them and feel guilty and come back to take care of them. But you must act to reduce their anxiety. Because separation anxiety can come in the way of learning Here are 3 things you need to do – 1. Reduce your own anxiety Your child’s brain has mirror neurons. These mirror neurons pick up your emotions. If you are anxious your child gets even more anxious. This results in your child clinging to you and crying. If you are struggling with anxiety reach out for help 2. Explain and empathize Don’t keep telling your child that school will be lots of fun At first school may not be fun. Your child may feel lonely and scared in school without you. They may feel like crying. Explain this to your child so that they are prepared for the negative emotions. Also tell them that it is completely normal to feel like crying. If your child only expects positive emotions, they will get scared when they experience negative emotions in school and cry even more 3. Do not be overprotective When your child is crying you may feel like protecting them from the world by keeping them at home, or carrying them in your lap or talking to the teacher for a long time about your child or waiting outside the school even after the gates have closed. All these will make your child feel even more scared. Your over protection will convince your child that there is some real danger. Walk in purposefully – say a cheerful goodbye and leave promptly. Type NO MORE TEARS and end separation anxiety now Share this with a parent who is making the above mistakes so that they realize and change. Follow me to learn parenting with neuroscience. #separationanxiety #preschooler #toddler |
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