Are worried about your child’s lack of confidence? 

Then ask yourself 

Am I the cause of their low confidence? 

Change these things about your parenting? 

1. Stop Focusing on WINNING 
When you want your child to win all the time
Your child lives in fear of losing 
This lowers their confidence 
Love your child through their losses and build their confidence 

2. Stop Focusing on PERFECTION 
When your child knows you want Perfection 
They live in fear of making mistakes 
This lowers their confidence 
Help your child to learn from their mistakes and build their confidence 

3. Stop OVER PROTECTING
Confidence is built by overcoming challenges. 
When you overcome all the challenges for your child they never have a chance to build their confidence 

Even if your child is the BEST at everything 
They can't do anything without CONFIDENCE 

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What is my child’s talent?

How can I discover my child’s talents?

How can I nurture my child’s talents?

These are some of the most common questions that parents ask me at my parenting workshops.

And the answer is this – 

To discover and nurture your child’s talents you need the 3 Es – 

The first E is EDUCATION

The talent may be right there in front of you, but if you are not aware of the different types of intelligence that exist, you may not see them.
Also, if you are unaware of how to use your child’s strengths to develop their talents, you may be disappointed when you find that despite being very talented your child is achieving nothing.

The second E is for ENVIRONMENT

Talents can only emerge when your child has the right home environment. And one of the most important things about the environment is – that it should be distraction free.
When a child has constant access to a mobile or TV they will never display their talents.

The third E is for ENJOY

A talent is a skill that a child is so good at, that it is effortless, and they enjoy doing it.
When a child has no free time to do what they want, you will never see what they enjoy doing and never discover their talents. 

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​Is your child using bad language?

Are you worried? 

Are you embarrassed?

Do you keep correcting your child?

And is nothing working?

Then this is what you need to do – 

1. Expand your child’s vocabulary.

When children do not have enough words to express themselves, they use “bad words” to fill the gaps.

Talk to them more.

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2. Do not overreact.

If you give your child attention only when they use bad language, they will use more bad language.

Give lots of positive attention

3. Reduce your child’s frustration.

Ask yourself – “Why does my child explode so often?”. Is your child anxious? Does your child need more freedom and control?

Be relaxed and forgiving.

4. Increase your child’s empathy.

Help your child to understand how other people feel when they hear bad language.

Have conversations about what people are thinking

5. Monitor your child’s media exposure.

Make sure they are not watching shows where bad language is considered cool.

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Do you struggle to make your child eat breakfast every day

Then this reel is for you 

Watch this And you will know what to do.

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Does your child say – “You don’t love me”?

Does it break your heart when you hear that?

I am sure it does.

Because you love your child more than anything else in this world.

Then why does your child feel unloved?

Reason 1 – 
You COMPARE
Yes – you compare to motivate your child
But your child feels – “They don’t love me – they love that other child.”

Reason 2 – 
You focus on COMPETITION.
Yes - you want your child to win.
But it makes your child feel – “They don’t love me – they love the prizes and awards”

Reason 3 – 
You CRITICISE
Yes – you want your child to improve and become the best.
But it makes your child feel – “They hate everything about me.”

NO
These parenting techniques do not work.

You need to show your love
And showing your love is not the same as pampering
It is helping your child become the best version of themselves without hurting them with COMPARISON, COMPETITION and CRITICISM.

Are you ready to change?

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The exams are almost here.

You want your child to do well in the exams.

But you can’t study for your child.

Then what can you do?

Follow the ABCDE of exam time parenting.

And help your child ace the exams

A - for ANGRY 

Do not get angry.
It may be difficult to stay calm when your child does not study or cannot understand or forgets.
But it is most important that you stay calm because the minute you get angry – your child’s thinking brain shuts down. 
And when the thinking brain shuts down, they just cannot do well in the exams

B – for BREAKS

When the exam is just a few days away you may feel like your child needs to study constantly without a break because there is no time.
But that is not the best thing to do.
Give your child a 5-minute break every 25 minutes. 
Moving around, drinking water or just cracking a joke during the break helps the brain focus

C – for COLLABORATE

Don’t keep nagging your child to study more or do better.
See what you can do to help your child do better.
Can you explain something? Can you help them remember something? Can you help them schedule time effectively?
Do what you can to work as a team.

D – for DESTRESS

Exams cause stress. Even if your child looks completely relaxed and uncaring, know that they are stressed.
Focus on the food you are serving them. It should be rich in macro and micronutrients.
Ensure that they get enough sleep.
Make a schedule that allows them a few hours of play and exercise.

E – for EXAMPLES

A lot of the information that your child is trying to cram into their brain may seem irrelevant to them. And that is why they don’t understand it or forget it easily.
Help your child to learn and remember what they are learning with real life examples and stories.

Are you following the ABCDE of exam time parenting?

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You can do so much more than shouting and hitting to improve your child’s result.
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Do you want your child to respect you?

Of course, you do.

But you can’t just ‘want’ respect. You must EARN it.

So how do you earn respect?

Whenever your child is not respectful
Use the formula RESPECT.

R – REFLECT on your own behavior
Stop and think about what you did to make your child disrespect you.
Did you ORDER your child instead of REQUESTING?
Did you IGNORE them instead of INCLUDING them?
Very often, without thinking – we disrespect our children.
Recognize what your are doing and stop

E – EMPATHISE with your child’s behavior.
Children never want to disrespect us.
Try to understand why they are behaving the way they are.
What is it that they really want.
When they feel that you are trying to understand them instead of shutting them down, they will respect you.

S – SELF-CONTROL
Control your own behavior.
If you shout, your child will shout too

P – POLITE
Use polite language and be respectful when you communicate.
That will make your child use respectful words too.

E – EMPOWER
Once you know what your child wants – show them how to get it the right way.
Show them how to use their words and their voice to sound respectful while asking for what they need.

C – COLLABORATE
Stay on your child’s team. 
If they think you are only there to stop them from doing what they want to – they will consider you their enemy. And that will lead to disrespect.
When you are on their team they will respect you.

T – TRUST
Be trustworthy.
Promise only what you can do. And do what you have promised.
If your child can’t trust you they won’t be able to respect you.

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​Do you want your child to respect you?

Of course, you do.

But you can’t just ‘want’ respect. You must EARN it.

So how do you earn respect?

Whenever your child is not respectful
Use the formula RESPECT.

R – REFLECT on your own behavior
Stop and think about what you did to make your child disrespect you.
Did you ORDER your child instead of REQUESTING?
Did you IGNORE them instead of INCLUDING them?
Very often, without thinking – we disrespect our children.
Recognize what your are doing and stop

E – EMPATHISE with your child’s behavior.
Children never want to disrespect us.
Try to understand why they are behaving the way they are.
What is it that they really want.
When they feel that you are trying to understand them instead of shutting them down, they will respect you.

S – SELF-CONTROL
Control your own behavior.
If you shout, your child will shout too

P – POLITE
Use polite language and be respectful when you communicate.
That will make your child use respectful words too.

E – EMPOWER
Once you know what your child wants – show them how to get it the right way.
Show them how to use their words and their voice to sound respectful while asking for what they need.

C – COLLABORATE
Stay on your child’s team. 
If they think you are only there to stop them from doing what they want to – they will consider you their enemy. And that will lead to disrespect.
When you are on their team they will respect you.

T – TRUST
Be trustworthy.
Promise only what you can do. And do what you have promised.
If your child can’t trust you they won’t be able to respect you.

Type RESPECT and start following these steps to change the whole atmosphere in your house and make it respectful 

Most adults who demand respect – do none of the above things. Don’t be one of them.

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Is my toddler ready for playgroup/ preschool?

This is one of the most common questions that parents ask me.

In this reel I share 5 important points to note to know if your toddler is ready for playgroup / preschool

1. Your toddler should be following a routine at home.

Ideally, they should be able to do many self-care tasks that are part of the routine by themselves. They should be able to feed themselves, pull their pants up and down and put on their shoes before they start school. 

2. Your toddler should be able to follow simple instructions.

They should enjoy doing household chores with you and be able to follow simple instructions during the chores.

3. Your toddler should be able to communicate needs and preferences.

Even if they have a very limited vocabulary, they should be able to ask for what they need through 2–3-word sentences or gestures. They should also be able to indicate what they want and don’t want through gestures.

4. Your toddler should be used to staying without the parents for short periods

They should be able to play when they are left with caregivers or neighbors for short periods.

5. Your toddler should be curious

They should want to explore inside the house. They should also be interested in going out of the house to explore and discover. They should be curious and interested in people and things.

It is ideal for your toddler to also be daytime toilet trained before they begin preschool. If they still haven’t achieved that milestone –start working towards it.

Is your toddler starting playgroup / preschool this year?

Are they ready? 

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