Teething can be exciting and terrifying at the same time.
With #teething a whole new world opens up for your baby.
But there can be some discomfort as well.
Find out how to manage this phase in my article for Morisons Baby Dreams
My 5 year old has started manipulating me.
I have to stay on alert all the time - otherwise she will make me do exactly what she wants."
A mom tells me.
"If I get angry - she is the best child in the world.
But as soon as I start smiling and laughing - she goes back to misbehaving.
It is scary. If she behaves like this at 5 - what will I do when she is 15?"
A mom tells me at a consultation.
"Take it from me - she is not manipulating you".
I tell the mom.
She is acting out of the fear.
Her compliance is a survival mechanism."
Children do not have the part of the brain required to manipulate.
They are incapable of the hypothetical thinking and empathy required to manipulate.
If your child is manipulating you - you can be sure that somewhere along the way - you have gone wrong with the way you are implementing #discipline.
Fix it now.
Reach out for help.
Thrilled to share this with you 🙂
"Building Immunity In Kids"
My seventh #book #published by Juggernaut Books (@juggernaut.in)
Has made it to the most downloaded list.
I wrote this book to help parents understand how 7 mistakes they are making while parenting their children is lowering their children's immunity.
The mistakes are not mistakes of omission or negligence.
No. These are mistakes that loving parents, who want to do their best for their children, and are putting in loads of time and effort to keep their children healthy - are making.
What are these mistakes?
How can you stop making them?
How can this then make parenting easier and more fun?
Find out in my book.
Buy it here https://amzn.to/3MTzV2i
Let me know if you have any questions.
And do post a review when you read 🙂
Does food really matter when we talk about brain building in babies?
Yes it does.
Because brain building in early childhood involves actual structural growth of nerve cells.
And if you don't give your baby the right food - your baby does not have the raw materials to build the nerve cells.
Unfortunately since brain building is a silent hidden process - most parents don't focus on it.
Most of us focus is only on weight gain
But this is wrong.
Build your baby's brain with the right foods - find out what they should eat in this article that I have written for Morisons Baby Dreams (@morisonsbabydreams)
There is a difference between CLEAN and NEAT
It is enough if the house is clean
Don't insist on it being neat all the time
Constantly insisting on neatness creates unhappiness, frustration and conflict.
Learning to be satisfied with cleanliness puts you on the path to happiness.
My house is always a little messy.
At any given moment - I am reading at least 5 books simultaneously.
And you will find them lying around.
When I take a break I read the newspaper and that is always open too.
My laptop is always open because I am in the midst of writing or consulting or creating content for my workshops.
I constantly listen to videos and podcasts - so you are sure to find earphones and headphones strewn around.
And there is always an assortment of different colored pens and highlighters strewn around.
I blame no one for the mess.
It is mine and I own it.
When I have unexpected guests - I can see the disapproval in their eyes.
But I refuse to feel judged.
The house is absolutely clean.
There is no dirt or dust anywhere in the house.
And that is enough for me.
I am satisfied with CLEAN.
I don't need it to be NEAT.
There is a prevailing #GenderBias about neatness.
Men are rarely judged for untidy living spaces.
They are not labelled lazy or irresponsible if they leave their things lying around.
When it comes to women however, clutter is a mark of character.
This is a bias that is drilled into us when we are children. And we internalize it and begin to identify with it.
During my parenting consultations - many moms tell me that they get extremely upset when they see clutter.
They spend almost all day clearing the clutter or yelling at their kids to clear it up.
It results in them feeling angry, frustrated, exploited and exhausted.
They miss out on relishing experiences, spending time with their family and enjoying me-time because they feel compelled to clean.
And it is not their love for cleaning but how they will be perceived by others that makes them do it.
It is 2022.
Can we #BreakTheBias now?
Can we stop judging ourselves and other women for living the way we want to in the space that we call home?
"Just ask her if she wants to study or not! "
"Just tell him that he needs to study."
Many times I have parents come to me and ask for things like the above.
Of course they are talking about their children who are not studying.
And they believe that their children are not studying because they DON'T WANT TO.
But that is never the case.
Children don't study - not because they don't want to - but because they CAN'T.
Who wouldn't want marks if they could get them easily.
But getting marks is not easy at all.
There is a lot of difference between studying and getting marks.
Several times children study - but don't get marks.
This makes them feel that they are not smart enough to do well.
And to drown this feeling of inadequacy - they escape into the virtual world via their phones.
The phones are not the problem.
The problem is that they don't know 'how to study'.
More importantly they don't know 'how to get marks'.
And because they don't get the results they hope their hard work will get them - they give up.
Don't shout and scream at your child if they are not studying.
Understand that they CAN'T study because they don't know how.
Reach out for help if you don't know what to do.
The world is in the grip of
"the great resignation".
And studies are showing - that a prominent reason so many people are leaving their jobs - is because they are gripped by parental guilt and shame.
When parents experience negative emotions - like shame and guilt - because of not doing what they think they should in their role as parents - they withdraw from the thing that prevented them from parenting - which is their work.
This withdrawal from work - leads to them enjoying their work less - feeling less passion and motivation - and impacts productivity and performance.
Ultimately there is dissatisfaction and disillusionment - leading to them quitting their jobs.
This is not a new phenomenon.
Moms have always given up their careers when in the grip of parenting shame.
But having hand held many many mothers who have been on the verge of quitting their jobs over the past 10 years - I can safely say - that just sitting at home does no good.
It can, in fact, do more harm than good when the parent begins to measure their performance through the performance of the child.
Huge targets and unfair expectations make children anxious and demotivated.
This of course affects performance.
The parent pushes harder - this strains the parent child relationship - and leads to all round resentment.
So although sitting at home seems like the ultimate solution to all parenting problems - it is not.
If you are about to give up on your career because of parenting guilt and shame - STOP!!!
Reach out for help to understand what your child REALLY needs and understand how to deliver this WHILE YOU WORK