The world is in the grip of
"the great resignation".
And studies are showing - that a prominent reason so many people are leaving their jobs - is because they are gripped by parental guilt and shame.
When parents experience negative emotions - like shame and guilt - because of not doing what they think they should in their role as parents - they withdraw from the thing that prevented them from parenting - which is their work.
This withdrawal from work - leads to them enjoying their work less - feeling less passion and motivation - and impacts productivity and performance.
Ultimately there is dissatisfaction and disillusionment - leading to them quitting their jobs.
This is not a new phenomenon.
Moms have always given up their careers when in the grip of parenting shame.
But having hand held many many mothers who have been on the verge of quitting their jobs over the past 10 years - I can safely say - that just sitting at home does no good.
It can, in fact, do more harm than good when the parent begins to measure their performance through the performance of the child.
Huge targets and unfair expectations make children anxious and demotivated.
This of course affects performance.
The parent pushes harder - this strains the parent child relationship - and leads to all round resentment.
So although sitting at home seems like the ultimate solution to all parenting problems - it is not.
If you are about to give up on your career because of parenting guilt and shame - STOP!!!
Reach out for help to understand what your child REALLY needs and understand how to deliver this WHILE YOU WORK