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Do you want your child to be PATIENT?
Yes. Patience is a very important quality that a child needs to succeed in life. Without patience – (a) Your child cannot learn – because they are not patient enough to practice (b) Your child cannot make friends – because they don’t have the patience to listen (c) Your child cannot solve problems – because they don’t have the patience to think. But do you know why your child cannot be patient? BECAUSE YOUR CHILD HAS AN INCOMPLETE BRAIN. YOUR CHILD’S BRAIN DOES NOT HAVE THE PART THAT MAKES A PERSON PATIENT So, do you have to wait for your child’s brain to grow? No. You can use my NEUROSCIENCE BASED 5-P FORMULA TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S BRAIN AND MAKE THEM PATIENT. These are the 5 Ps – 1. P for PATIENCE Be patient yourself. If always rush your child and ask them to do things immediately – they will do the same. 2. P for PRACTICE Don’t leave whatever you are doing as soon as your child asks for something and give them what they want. Politely ask them to wait a minute. And then thank them for waiting. 3. P for PACIFY Don’t get angry when your child is impatient Tell them that you understand how difficult it is to be patient and what you do when you feel impatient 4. P for PLAY Give your child lots of time to play outdoors. Nature has a calming effect and makes us patient. Reduce screen time or even better stop all use of TV and mobiles. 5. P for PARTNERSHIP Do household chores or any other activity where you and your child have to work together. Working together will help your child to learn how to wait for their turn. Type 5-P and start building your child’s brain to be PATIENT. Remember if you don’t make your child PATIENT – your child will not be SUCCESSFUL. Share this now with those who criticize your child for SHOUTING and being IMPATIENT. Let them understand that your child still does not have a fully developed brain. This is PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE in action. Follow me to know more. #parenting #patience #play #punishment
​So many parents who love their children a LOT - don’t say “I LOVE YOUâ€
Do I have to say I LOVE YOU? – they ask me Yes you do!! Because the 3 words create MAGIC Here are the 3 magical things that happen when you say - I LOVE YOU 1. It increases your child’s FOCUS The question “Am I loved?†is a constant distraction for a child because their survival depends on being loved and treasured. When you tell your child you love them – you end that distraction and increase their focus. 2. It increases your child’s MOTIVATION The only thing that motivates us in life is LOVE. Love is a flood of dopamine and it can make us move mountains. When children feel unloved – they become demotivated. 3. It increases your child’s CONFIDENCE When you tell your child you love them – it increases their self-esteem and builds their confidence. When children feel unloved, they avoid challenges because they lack confidence If you are struggling to build your child’s focus, confidence and motivation – start saying I LOVE YOU. Do you say I LOVE YOU? How many times a day do you say it? Write the number in comments. This is PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE in action. PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE gives you simple solutions to complex problems. Do you want to learn PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE? Subscribe to my PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE COURSE for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds. DM me for details. Share this now with a parent who does not say I LOVE YOU Follow me for more. #parenting #self-esteem #motivation
Do you want to scold your child?
No. Of course not. Then why do you scold them? 1. Your child doesn’t sit and study. You have to scold them so that they learn. 2. Your child doesn’t finish their food. You have to scold them so that they eat and stay healthy. 3. Your child throws tantrums. You have to scold them so that they become disciplined. Yes. YOU SCOLD YOUR CHILD BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AND WANT THE BEST FOR THEM. But remember YOUR CHILD IS NOT A MINI ADULT. +++ Your child cannot sit and study because their brain learns better when they are moving around +++Your child cannot finish their food because their stomach is very small. They need small amounts of nutrient dense food. +++Your child is throwing a tantrum because they want to tell you something but they don’t have the words. So, what should you do? STOP TREATING YOUR CHILD LIKE A MINI ADULT. Understand what their brain and body needs. When you give them that they will become HEALTHY + HAPPY + SMART Type LOVE and start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE because that is what your child needs. Share this so that you are not criticized by others WHEN YOU DON’T SCOLD YOUR CHILD. Follow me for more. #parenting #learning #neuroscience #tantrums #fussyeating
Pacifiers are BAD
Your pediatrician must have told you that using a pacifier can – 1. Make it difficult to breastfeed 2. Cause infections 3. Cause choking 4. Affect the normal development of the teeth and jaw. But there is a BIGGER PROBLEM with using pacifiers Using a pacifier can affect your child’s LEARNING in the first few years. This can result in poor performance in school. Surprised? Don’t be. This is what your baby needs to learn in school 1. A smart brain that can learn quickly This is developed when you respond to your baby’s crying and babbling And is called serve and return. When you put a pacifier in your baby’s mouth – they can’t serve – so you don’t return. The lack of serve and return results in poor brain development 2. Good hearing capacity to listen and learn Pacifiers can cause ear infections. This can cause hearing problems. Hearing problems can result in poor language development. Poor language development can be a big problem in learning. 3. Good Hand to eye coordination to write Hand to eye coordination is developed by mouthing (putting hands and other objects in the mouth) When a baby has a pacifier in the mouth, they don’t put their hands and other things in their mouth. This results in poor hand to eye coordination 4. Good pronunciation to spell correctly Pacifiers can alter the shape of the growing mouth and change the way your baby speaks. When the pronunciation is wrong, the spelling is also likely to be wrong. 5. Emotional regulation to stay calm while learning When a baby is given a pacifier they become dependent on the pacifier to stay calm. They don’t learn self-regulation. When they need to stay calm without a pacifier in school they throw tantrums and do not listen. Are you keeping your baby quiet with a pacifier so that other people will not criticize you? The same people will criticize you when your child struggles to learn in school. Type STOP and stop using pacifiers now. Focus on your child’s future not on what others say. Share this so that everyone knows why you are right when you don’t use a pacifier. Start PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE and stop making big parenting mistakes. #pacifier #parenting
Do you want your SHY child to SHINE
Then STOP these 3 SHs SHAMING “Why can’t you go and play like the other children?†This makes them ashamed of themselves and makes them even more shy. SHOVING Shoving or pushing a child to do what they are not able to do will decrease their confidence further and make them even more shy. SHELTERING If you are overprotective and keep speaking for your child when they need or want something they will remain shy. What should you do? Follow my neuroscience based ABCDEF formula to help your SHY child SHINE A – Accept Say – yes, I know it is scary. When your child feels understood – they will feel more confident. B – Build self-esteem Give your child lots of cuddles and kisses to show them that you love them. This will make them more confident. C – Clarify Instead of telling your child to be social, show your child how to socialize by doing it yourself. When they see that you are not afraid of new people and places, they will be brave too. D – Delight When your child moves away from you keep making eye contact and cheer them on with a big smile. E – Empower Teach your child basic skills like how to use the toilet, how to take off and put on shoes etc. so that they feel confident. Remember being SHY is not a bad thing. Having LOW CONFIDENCE is bad. Make sure you are not destroying your child’s confidence with the 3 SHs Type ABC and start building your child’s confidence NOW. Share this - so that those who are SHAMING, SHOVING and SHELTERING your child see this and STOP. Your SHY child will soon SHINE. Follow me to learn Parenting with Neuroscience. #parenting #shy #confidence #introvert
Does your child eat very slowly?
Are you tired of spending hours and hours feeding them every day? Then you need this magical 3C formula to make your child eat fast The 1st C is CONTROL Your child will eat fast when they feel hungry. They will feel hungry when they feel powerful and happy They will feel powerful and happy when you let them eat on their own. Because that will put them in control. Are you worried that your child will eat less and not get all the nutrients if they eat on their own? Don’t worry – Just make finger foods / snacks with healthy ingredients that are rich in nutrients. The 2nd C is CURIOSITY Children are curious. They want to explore all the time. That is why they hate to sit in one place and eat. When they are forced to sit and eat – they get into a bad mood and stop feeling hungry When they are not hungry, they take a long time to eat. Do this. Make food in various colors using spinach, carrot, beetroot and so on. Cut cutlets rotis idlis and pancakes with cookie cutters to get various shapes The 3rd C is CRUNCH Crunchy foods make children hungry. That is why they eat big packets of crunchy junk food without any problem. When we feed them meals at home, we mash the food so much that it has no texture and definitely no crunch. Do this. Stop mashing food. Also add a crunch by coating cutlets with breadcrumbs. Type 3C and start following this. FREE yourself and your child from hours and hours of feeding every day. Share this with a struggling mom now. Follow me for more.
Do you wonder why your child does not perform even though they know everything?
Many parents often tell me - She is very good at dancing – but she never dances. He knows everything – but he gets nervous and does not answer in the exams. And so on. These children don’t lack skills They are not able to perform because of the lack of CONFIDENCE. So, it is important to remember this while parenting. Teaching your child how to do something will not make them SUCCESSFUL They will SUCCEED if they are CONFIDENT. And their CONFIDENCE depends on – how much you SCOLD them. How much you scold them – depends on what you EXPECT from them What you expect from them – depends on what you KNOW about their growing brain and body. Every time you scold your child for not doing what you expect – they feel that they are BAD – because they have made you sad and angry. This lowers their confidence and they cannot perform even though they know everything. What is the solution? LEARN ABOUT THE GROWING BRAIN AND BODY so that you have the RIGHT EXPECTATIONS. Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. Don't let your lack of knowledge affect your child’s future Type PB if you want to subscribe to my PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE course and I will send you the details on DM. #parenting #confidence #scolding
DON’T MAKE YOUR CHILD PERFECT.
It will NOT make your child SUCCESSFUL It can DESTROY your child’s FUTURE What Happens when you make your child PERFECT? 1. They stop trying new things – because they cannot be perfect at something new We complain that they are DEMOTIVATED 2. They do things at the last minute – because they want an excuse for being imperfect We complain that they are LAZY 3. They can’t make friends – because they don’t find anyone perfect We complain that they are UNFRIENDLY 4. They can’t take feedback – because it makes them feel imperfect We complain that they are SENSITIVE 5. They struggle to adjust – because they expect everything to be perfect We complain that they are PAMPERED AND SPOILT 6. They get give up easily – because they cannot take the anxiety of making mistakes We complain that they are NOT HARDWORKING 7. They lie and cheat – because they need to be perfect at all costs We complain that they are BAD. STOP trying to make your child PERFECT Fill them with the COURAGE to make MISTAKES and learn from their mistakes And tell them that making mistakes does not make them BAD or UNLOVABLE. That will make them TRY MORE TRY HARDER TRY AGAIN And ultimately SUCCEED Do you want your child to be SUCCESSFUL? Type YES and throw perfection out of your life Share this so that all those people who scold you when YOUR CHILD IS NOT PERFECT see it and understand that YOU ARE MAKING YOUR CHILD SUCCESSFUL . Don’t damage your child’s growing brain because of wrong beliefs. Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. If you are the parent of a child between 0 to 7 years – learn parenting with neuroscience by subscribing to my Parenting Blueprint course. DM me if you want to know more. #parenting #perfectionism #fearoffailure #procrastination
Are you always worried about your child?
Then you need to know this. When you WORRY You get STRESSED When you get STRESSED Your child gets STRESSED When your child gets STRESSED They do things that get you STRESSED. Because the STRESS Is DAMAGING THEiR BRAIN Yes! For example - You are worried that your child is NOT EATING So, you are stressed. Because you are stressed your child is stressed too. Because your child is stressed, their brain is nit working well and they are not hungry. Because your child is not hungry - they are not eating. And because they are not eating – you are getting even more stressed. It is the same with LEARNING. You are stressed because your child is not learning. Your child is not learning because you are stressed. It is the same with TANTRUMS You are stressed because your child is throwing tantrums. Your child is throwing tantrums because you are stressed. BUT HOW CAN YOU STOP BEING WORRIED AND STRESSED? By understanding exactly what your child needs and how to give it to them. 1. How to feed them so that they eat 2. How to teach them so that they learn 3. How to discipline them so that they listen. And the answers lie in NEUROSCIENCE. With neuroscience you can understand your child’s growing brain and body. You can understand what their growing brains and bodies need. And how to deliver what they need effectively without causing any damage. PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE is the only way to STRESS FREE PARENTING And STRESS-FREE PARENTING is the only way to FANTASTIC BRAIN BUILDING. Do you want to learn PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE? Send me a message saying PB. And I will send you the link to subscribe to my PARENTING WITH NEUROSCIENCE course. Share this with all those who criticize you when you RELAX. They should know that STRESS is not good for your child and STOP getting you STRESSED. Type OK and follow me for more. #parenting #stress #neuroscience
What do you do when your child DEMANDS?
Do you (a) Buy what they ask? (b) Explain and argue? (c) Say “I don’t have money†(d) Say “We can’t afford it†Does this result in tears, tantrums and more demands? Then STOP And follow my 4D formula for DEALING WITH DEMANDS The 1st D is DREAM – When children ask for something – what they really want is connection. Listen to them. Appreciate the item they want. Dream with them about how much fun it would be to have it. Imagine with them what else can be used in its place. The 2nd D is DEESCALATE The easiest way to deescalate is to empathize. I know you feel sad that we can’t buy it. The 3rd D is DESIRE Understand that it is normal to desire things and help them to plan to fulfill their desires Give them some money and allow them to buy something with it. Help them to make a plan to save up for it Encourage creating a wish list that they can choose from on their birthday. Show them how to get the best deal. The 4th D is DISCUSS Talk about what you are going to buy before you leave the house. Show them how to pick out things within your budget. Have an ongoing conversation about your family values of eating healthy, focusing on sustainability etc. so that they make the right buying decisions. Save this now to use later. Share this with THOSE WHO BUY YOUR CHILD THINGS AND THEN CALL THEM SPOILT Follow me for more PARENTING FORMULAS |
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