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If you are a parent panicking because you are worried about your child's performance in the boards - this is for you
There are so many elements that determine success in an examination.
And almost all of them are technique based.
If you don't know the technique - no amount of hard work can help you.
1. Learning is technique based
2. Recall is technique based
3. Presentation is technique based
4. Motivation is technique based
5. Recovery from failure is technique based
6. Improvement is technique based
And most first generation learners don't know these techniques.
This results in them struggling and sometimes giving up because they simply can't find their way through the maze of exams.
Fortunately there are amazing people like Anjali Gurmukhani Sharma who mentor such students and help them hone their talents and skills.
And yesterday I was privileged to spend some time guiding them as well.
At my workshop yesterday I helped these children apply the neuroscience of learning, motivation and success to their every day efforts.
And it was so heartening to receive their wonderful feedback sharing their key takeaways ( that were absolutely accurate)
So grateful for this opportunity to make the world a more equal place.
#quoted in this article on "Exam Anxiety" in the Mint
Exam anxiety looks different in different children.
If your child is experiencing palpitations of course that is a sign of anxiety.
Continuing to happily play video games without worrying about the exam is also a sign of exam anxiety.
It is difficult to recognize that a child is stressed
And you may be stressed yourself so it may be even more difficult for you
This may result in you doing things that add to their anxiety instead of helping.
Anxiety adversely impacts exam performance. So it is important to do whatever you can to reduce anxiety.
I am happy that I am able to create awareness and offer support and solutions through my workshops and consultations on exam anxiety.
Please reach out if you need a consultation or want to organize a workshop.
When I started my practice as a parenting consultant 10 years ago
I used to have the parents of toddlers and teenagers reach out to me for consultations in large numbers.
In the past few years however, a large number of parents who have children in the age group 8 - 12 years, have begun to reach out for consultations.
"He is always exploding with anger and getting aggressive" some parents complain about a child who was very easygoing and calm a few years ago.
"She seems to enjoy watching me suffer." a concerned mother tells me about a child who was gentle, kind and considerate a few years ago.
The behaviour of their children leaves parents flabbergasted and reeling in shock and disbelief at this stage.
And the reason is - that parents are unpprepared for the TWEENS.
The "in-between years" during which their children transition from "children" to "teenagers"
Yes. The TWEENS are real.
And they are a challenging time for your child.
And that is why they become a challenging time for you.
Prepare for this challenging time before it arrives.
Read my book "55 Parenting tips for every age and every stage" published by Juggernaut Books.
In the book I have a whole section for the parents of Tweens.
Buy it here : https://www.amazon.in/Parenting-Tips-every.../dp/B0987HMGVX
And if you are in midst of a tween parenting crisis - reach out for help before things get worse.
When you finish conducting a workshop....
And all the 35 teenagers who were listening to you.....
Spontaneously lift their hands and give you a long round of applause...
You feel like you are floating on cloud nine.
That is exactly how I felt when I finished speaking to the 10th grade students of the Bangalore International School on Thursday.
I spoke on
"How to manage exam anxiety and study well"
And I was absolutely overwhelmed with the rapt attention with which every word was received.
The nods and smiles when I spoke about a relatable challenge
and the sparkling eyes when they had their "aaahaaa" moments - thrilled me, as I shared the neuroscience of learning and hacks to overcome learning challenges by applying neuroscience.
What an amazing audience!!!
Smart - well read - articulate - motivated and enthusiastic about taking ownership of their learning.
Also generous and unafraid to express their appreciation and gratitude.
Yes. So many of them walked up to me after the session and said "Thank you so much Ma'am for conducting this session for us."
Who says teens don't listen?
Of course they listen!
You just have to say something that they don't already know.
You have to be logical and sure of what you say.
And you have to deliver research in neuroscience such that they can immediately apply it and improve.
Of course - you simply cannot preach.
You need to help them find ways to thrive in today's social world and simultaneously excel in academics.
That's when they listen.
So grateful for this opportunity to share what I know with the citizens of tomorrow.
Backaches are always bad.
But when you are pregnant they can make you feel terrible.
What can you do?
Find out in my article for Morisons Baby Dreams (@morisonsbabydreams)
Teething can be exciting and terrifying at the same time.
With #teething a whole new world opens up for your baby.
But there can be some discomfort as well.
Find out how to manage this phase in my article for Morisons Baby Dreams
My 5 year old has started manipulating me.
I have to stay on alert all the time - otherwise she will make me do exactly what she wants."
A mom tells me.
"If I get angry - she is the best child in the world.
But as soon as I start smiling and laughing - she goes back to misbehaving.
It is scary. If she behaves like this at 5 - what will I do when she is 15?"
A mom tells me at a consultation.
"Take it from me - she is not manipulating you".
I tell the mom.
She is acting out of the fear.
Her compliance is a survival mechanism."
Children do not have the part of the brain required to manipulate.
They are incapable of the hypothetical thinking and empathy required to manipulate.
If your child is manipulating you - you can be sure that somewhere along the way - you have gone wrong with the way you are implementing #discipline.
Fix it now.
Reach out for help.