Do you say what you hear other parents say?
Do you say what you were told when you were a child?
Do you say what you like without thinking about its impact?
Then it is time to stop now.
Let 2024 be the year of conscious parenting.
In 2024 think about the words you are say and the impact it may have on your child and their future.
Donât focus on getting things done.
Focus on helping your child become the best version of themselves.
To begin â stop saying these 3 things
âIf you donât come â I am going without you.â
Do you say this when your child is refusing to leave the park or a play date.
Even if this makes you child run after you â what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child that you can threaten and emotionally blackmail your loved ones into listening to you.
Tomorrow when they are teens â be prepared for them to threaten to leave the house to get you to agree to their demands.
âStop crying. There is nothing to cry about.â
Do you shut down your childâs tears like this when you are in a hurry or guilty or embarrassed?
Even if this makes your child stop crying â what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child to ignore their emotions and thereby making your child less emotionally intelligent.
Have you heard EQ is more important than IQ? Sending your child to an emotional intelligence class will not fix their low EQ if you do this.
âStop doing that. You are making me sad.â
Do you emotionally blackmail your child into listening to you by saying that?
Even if this makes your child listen to you immediately â what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child that they must do things to make other people happy all the time.
You are turning your child into a people pleaser.
People pleasing is a trait that is sure to destroy your childâs ability to make good decisions.
You know that making good decisions is crucial for success. How will your child succeed if you damage their ability to make good decisions?
You want to do the best for your child â but - are you doing what will be best for your child?
Type STOP and change now.
In 2024 â start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE
Happy New Year!
Don't worry if you have a STUBBORN CHILD
A stubborn child is a LEADER in the making
They know what they want and how to get it
All you need to do is guide them the right way using NEUROSCIENCE
Use the 5 L Parenting Technique to bring out the leader in your child
They are arguing so that they can explain their point of view. Try to understand them.
This builds communication skills
Many times children argue because they want to feel connected with you. Give them lots of hugs and kisses
This builds resilience
Let your child learn by experimenting and experiencing in a safe environment.
This builds an innovative mind
Do not plan too many things. Allow lots of time for transitions.
This builds organization skills
Keep the stress low through laughter and play.
This helps learn collaboration
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Let the people who call your child stubborn know that these are leadership qualities in the making.
There are 3 DANGEROUS MYTHS about SCREENTIME
Parents who believe these myths are giving their children screentime.
And DESTROYING THEIR GROWING BRAINS
Do you believe any of these 3 dangerous myths?
Myth 1 â
Interactive Screentime is better than passive screen time.
Which means that screen time where the child is doing something on a mobile or tablet is better than watching TV.
Interactive screentime is as bad as passive screentime because it is addicting.
Myth 2 â
Educational screentime where the child is learning something is better than entertainment screentime where the child is watching cartoons.
Educational screen time damages the brain in the same way as entertainment screentime because of unnatural stimulation of the nervous system.
Myth 3 â
Background TV is not harmful.
Which means parents / grandparents watching TV in the same room where the child is playing is okay.
BACKGROUND TV AFFECTS both language development and focus.
What you donât know about brain development can damage your childâs brain
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Then your child will not see other children using devices and beg you for a device.
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âWhat do we want when we discipline children?
We want them to LEARN.
We want them to learn how to function in the world without harming themselves or others.
But are our discipline techniques designed to TEACH?
The answer is NO
Most of the commonly used discipline techniques are designed to CONTROL
But how long can we control our children?
Eventually we need them to develop SELF-CONTROL.
Here is what you need to STOP doing -
1. Giving silent treatment â
No. Staying silent is NOT better than shouting.
When you stay silent you cut off connection with your child and leave them alone.
Not only is this EMOTIONAL ABUSE it also does not teach the child anything about what their mistake was and what they should do the next time
2. Giving rewards â
No. Giving rewards is NOT better than punishing.
Giving rewards kills intrinsic motivation.
Your child does not learn to do the right thing. They learn to do whatever is rewarded.
This can be DANGEROUS because they can then be made to do anything for a reward.
3. Giving consequences â
No. There is NO DIFFERENCE between a punishment and a consequence if you are the one who decides what the consequence will be.
Consequences donât teach children not to do the wrong things.
They just teach them to HIDE from you when they do the wrong things so that they don't have to face punishments (also called consequences)
So what should you do to discipline your child?
TUNE IN â listen to them and understand why they made the mistake.
TALK â explain why what they did was wrong.
THINK â discuss how to fix the mistake and what to do next time to avoid it.
Type 3T and start following the 3T formula
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Do you give your child junk food because it is the EASY option?
Donât do that.
The PROPERTIES of junk food that make it easy â also make it BAD for your child.
1. Do you store / carry junk food because it does not get spoilt?
Do you prefer it over real food because it does not rot?
Do you know why it does not rot?
Because junk food has so little nutrition that even bacteria donât want to eat it.
Because junk food has preservatives that even bacteria know are poisonous and so do not eat.
As thinking parents do we really want our children to eat what bacteria will not eat?
2. Do you give junk food to stop your childâs tantrums?
Do you know that junk food is filled with chemicals that make it addictive and make your child throw more tantrums?
As thinking parents do we want to give our children that will damage their emotional health and cause them and us more stress?
3. Do you give your child junk food because you are afraid that if they donât eat anything they will fall sick? And so you want to feed them something...anything?
Do you know that the preservatives in junk food make your child sick?
Say NO to junk food
Type NO and begin now
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âIf your child is between 0 to 7 years old â this is for YOU.
Of course, you know that the brain is growing rapidly at this time.
And of course, you want to do everything you can to grow your childâs brain in the best possible way.
But â do you have a plan?
Do you have a mantra?
If you donât use my 5 R formula to grow your babyâs brain â
Rock your baby in your arms
Rock them in the cradle
Let me them rock on swings when they are older.
You will find that they cry less.
And when they cry less, they will learn more â which will grow their brain
Do action songs
This helps the brain areas to network with each other and develop fast
Read to your baby from the time they are born. You could even start reading when they are in your womb
Nothing accelerates learning and brain building like reading does
Follow a routine
A routine becomes a habit
A good routine builds healthy habits
And healthy habits build a healthy brain
Do you know stress can destroy the brain?
And do you know that YOU are the source of that stress?
You may have heard that constantly doing activities builds the brain â but remember that the activities work only when you are relaxed.
So learn to relax
Building your babyâs brain is easy
But no app can do it for you
You must do it all yourself.
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Is your child JUST NOT LISTENING to you?
Then you need to make these REPLACEMENTS
To deepen your RELATIONSHIP
Because children LISTEN when they feel CONNECTED
Replace INTERESTING with INTERESTED
So many times we are doing everything we can to make our child's life Interesting
We are so busy that we forget to be interested in our child.
Just be interested and it will deepen your Relationship
Replace PERFECTION with PRESENCE
So many times we are working so hard to make life perfect for our children that we are constantly preoccupied and cannot remain present
Just be present and it will deepen your Relationship
Replace COMPARISON with COMPLIMENTS
Nothing can damage a relationship as much as comparison. Stop comparing and start complimenting. That will deepen your Relationship
Are you ready To make these replacements?
Type YES And change your relationship and your life today.
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âAre you looking for a gift that your child will LOVE?
Let me share a list with you
Give your child -
1. UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
Even if we have everything else, if we don't have the undivided attention of the person we love, we feel like we have nothing.
Your child feels the same.
PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE and LISTEN
2. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
When we are loved despite our weaknesses and mistakes, we feel like we have the whole world
Your child feels the same
LOVE THEM EVEN IF THEY DON'T LISTEN
We feel unhappy when we don't understand things
Your child feels the same
TAKE TIME TO ANSWER ALL THEIR QUESTIONS
Nothing makes a child happier than a parent who plays with them
MAKE TIME TO PLAY
5. PARENTS WHO ARE NOT FIGHTING
Nothing can be more disturbing for a child than parents who are fighting
RESOLVE YOUR FIGHTS IN PRIVATE QUICKLY
Your child needs to feel your love
That is the only gift they need.
Type GIFT And give your child These gifts this CHRISTMAS.
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Are you trying to pack your childâs life with activities and experiences?
Are you doing this to build their brain and personality?
Is it working?
Because when you plan to do too many things â you are likely to always be in a rush.
And that rush is going to leave your child feeling â
1. Exhausted â because their tiny bodies and growing brains canât do so much.
2. Anxious â Because they are always being shouted at and scolded by you.
3. Unmotivated â Because they are constantly feeling unloved and unhappy.
Is that your goal?
When your child is
FRESH after resting enough,
RELAXED because of not being constantly rushed,
And CONFIDENT because they are making you happy,
They will grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially â even if they donât have all those activities and experiences.
Stop being the RUSHED parent.
Remember in parenting PRESENCE MATTERS MORE THAN PRESENTS
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Are you tired of shouting at your child? Do they NEVER listen no matter how much you shout? Then you should stop shouting Because shouting DOES NOT WORK When someone shouts at us we feel like moving away from the person and closing our ears That is what your child does too When someone whispers we feel like going close to them and trying to listen with more focus. That is what will happen if you whisper. When you want your child to listen Call them Or Go to them And whisper excitedly. The chances that your child will listen will be much higher Because it will feel like they are playing Let's think about the things that are not working in parenting and change them now. Type YES And begin this today. DM me if you would like to subscribe to my life changing course for the parents of 0 to 7 year olds. It is a 5 module, recorded course with lifetime access to the content. And you get support on a FB community for 6 months Subscribe within 24 hours of receiving the subscription link and you get a 30 minute online consultation with me free. Let us be better parents in 2024