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Do you say what you hear other parents say?
Do you say what you were told when you were a child? Do you say what you like without thinking about its impact? Then it is time to stop now. Let 2024 be the year of conscious parenting. In 2024 think about the words you are say and the impact it may have on your child and their future. Don’t focus on getting things done. Focus on helping your child become the best version of themselves. To begin – stop saying these 3 things 1. “If you don’t come – I am going without you.†Do you say this when your child is refusing to leave the park or a play date. Even if this makes you child run after you – what are you teaching your child? You are teaching your child that you can threaten and emotionally blackmail your loved ones into listening to you. Tomorrow when they are teens – be prepared for them to threaten to leave the house to get you to agree to their demands. 2. “Stop crying. There is nothing to cry about.†Do you shut down your child’s tears like this when you are in a hurry or guilty or embarrassed? Even if this makes your child stop crying – what are you teaching your child? You are teaching your child to ignore their emotions and thereby making your child less emotionally intelligent. Have you heard EQ is more important than IQ? Sending your child to an emotional intelligence class will not fix their low EQ if you do this. 3. “Stop doing that. You are making me sad.†Do you emotionally blackmail your child into listening to you by saying that? Even if this makes your child listen to you immediately – what are you teaching your child? You are teaching your child that they must do things to make other people happy all the time. You are turning your child into a people pleaser. People pleasing is a trait that is sure to destroy your child’s ability to make good decisions. You know that making good decisions is crucial for success. How will your child succeed if you damage their ability to make good decisions? You want to do the best for your child – but - are you doing what will be best for your child? Maybe not. Type STOP and change now. In 2024 – start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE Happy New Year!
Don't worry if you have a STUBBORN CHILD
A stubborn child is a LEADER in the making They know what they want and how to get it All you need to do is guide them the right way using NEUROSCIENCE Use the 5 L Parenting Technique to bring out the leader in your child 1. Listen They are arguing so that they can explain their point of view. Try to understand them. This builds communication skills 2. Love Many times children argue because they want to feel connected with you. Give them lots of hugs and kisses This builds resilience 3. Let Let your child learn by experimenting and experiencing in a safe environment. This builds an innovative mind 4. Laze Do not plan too many things. Allow lots of time for transitions. This builds organization skills 5. Laugh Keep the stress low through laughter and play. This helps learn collaboration Type LEADER And Share this now Let the people who call your child stubborn know that these are leadership qualities in the making. ​
There are 3 DANGEROUS MYTHS about SCREENTIME
Parents who believe these myths are giving their children screentime. And DESTROYING THEIR GROWING BRAINS Do you believe any of these 3 dangerous myths? Myth 1 – Interactive Screentime is better than passive screen time. Which means that screen time where the child is doing something on a mobile or tablet is better than watching TV. NO Interactive screentime is as bad as passive screentime because it is addicting. Myth 2 – Educational screentime where the child is learning something is better than entertainment screentime where the child is watching cartoons. NO Educational screen time damages the brain in the same way as entertainment screentime because of unnatural stimulation of the nervous system. Myth 3 – Background TV is not harmful. Which means parents / grandparents watching TV in the same room where the child is playing is okay. NO BACKGROUND TV AFFECTS both language development and focus. What you don’t know about brain development can damage your child’s brain Type DD and start with Device Discipline now and save your child’s brain. Share this now so that every parent sees this and stops using devices. Then your child will not see other children using devices and beg you for a device. If you want to learn Parenting with Neuroscience and avoid such problems DM me and I will share the details of my course for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds Follow me for more.
​What do we want when we discipline children?
We want them to LEARN. We want them to learn how to function in the world without harming themselves or others. But are our discipline techniques designed to TEACH? The answer is NO Most of the commonly used discipline techniques are designed to CONTROL But how long can we control our children? Eventually we need them to develop SELF-CONTROL. Here is what you need to STOP doing - 1. Giving silent treatment – No. Staying silent is NOT better than shouting. When you stay silent you cut off connection with your child and leave them alone. Not only is this EMOTIONAL ABUSE it also does not teach the child anything about what their mistake was and what they should do the next time 2. Giving rewards – No. Giving rewards is NOT better than punishing. Giving rewards kills intrinsic motivation. Your child does not learn to do the right thing. They learn to do whatever is rewarded. This can be DANGEROUS because they can then be made to do anything for a reward. 3. Giving consequences – No. There is NO DIFFERENCE between a punishment and a consequence if you are the one who decides what the consequence will be. Consequences don’t teach children not to do the wrong things. They just teach them to HIDE from you when they do the wrong things so that they don't have to face punishments (also called consequences) So what should you do to discipline your child? TUNE IN – listen to them and understand why they made the mistake. TALK – explain why what they did was wrong. THINK – discuss how to fix the mistake and what to do next time to avoid it. Type 3T and start following the 3T formula Share this and follow me for more.
Do you give your child junk food because it is the EASY option?
Don’t do that. The PROPERTIES of junk food that make it easy – also make it BAD for your child. 1. Do you store / carry junk food because it does not get spoilt? Do you prefer it over real food because it does not rot? BUT Do you know why it does not rot? Because junk food has so little nutrition that even bacteria don’t want to eat it. Because junk food has preservatives that even bacteria know are poisonous and so do not eat. As thinking parents do we really want our children to eat what bacteria will not eat? 2. Do you give junk food to stop your child’s tantrums? BUT Do you know that junk food is filled with chemicals that make it addictive and make your child throw more tantrums? As thinking parents do we want to give our children that will damage their emotional health and cause them and us more stress? 3. Do you give your child junk food because you are afraid that if they don’t eat anything they will fall sick? And so you want to feed them something...anything? BUT Do you know that the preservatives in junk food make your child sick? Say NO to junk food Type NO and begin now Share this so that others who give your child junk food see this and stop. Follow me for more
​If your child is between 0 to 7 years old – this is for YOU.
Of course, you know that the brain is growing rapidly at this time. And of course, you want to do everything you can to grow your child’s brain in the best possible way. But – do you have a plan? Do you have a mantra? If you don’t use my 5 R formula to grow your baby’s brain – 1. Rock Yes! Rock your baby in your arms Rock them in the cradle Let me them rock on swings when they are older. You will find that they cry less. And when they cry less, they will learn more – which will grow their brain 2. Rhyme Sing songs Recite rhymes Do action songs This helps the brain areas to network with each other and develop fast 3. Read Yes! Read to your baby from the time they are born. You could even start reading when they are in your womb Nothing accelerates learning and brain building like reading does 4. Routines Follow a routine A routine becomes a habit A good routine builds healthy habits And healthy habits build a healthy brain 5. Relax Do you know stress can destroy the brain? And do you know that YOU are the source of that stress? You may have heard that constantly doing activities builds the brain – but remember that the activities work only when you are relaxed. So learn to relax Building your baby’s brain is easy But no app can do it for you You must do it all yourself. Do you want to learn how to build your baby’s brain? Subscribe to my 5-module neuroscience-based Parenting Blueprint course for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds. This is a recorded course, and it comes with 6 months’ support to facilitate implementation. Comment PB below to receive the course details. Share this so that you are not judged for relaxing and not doing everything that other parents are doing for brain building. Follow me for more on parenting with neuroscience.
Is your child JUST NOT LISTENING to you?
Then you need to make these REPLACEMENTS To deepen your RELATIONSHIP Because children LISTEN when they feel CONNECTED Replace INTERESTING with INTERESTED So many times we are doing everything we can to make our child's life Interesting We are so busy that we forget to be interested in our child. Just be interested and it will deepen your Relationship Replace PERFECTION with PRESENCE So many times we are working so hard to make life perfect for our children that we are constantly preoccupied and cannot remain present Just be present and it will deepen your Relationship Replace COMPARISON with COMPLIMENTS Nothing can damage a relationship as much as comparison. Stop comparing and start complimenting. That will deepen your Relationship Are you ready To make these replacements? Type YES And change your relationship and your life today. Share this so that other parents do the same and you are free of the peer pressure to do everything that they are doing Follow me for more
​Are you looking for a gift that your child will LOVE?
Let me share a list with you Give your child - 1. UNDIVIDED ATTENTION Even if we have everything else, if we don't have the undivided attention of the person we love, we feel like we have nothing. Your child feels the same. PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE and LISTEN 2. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE When we are loved despite our weaknesses and mistakes, we feel like we have the whole world Your child feels the same LOVE THEM EVEN IF THEY DON'T LISTEN 3. ANSWERS We feel unhappy when we don't understand things Your child feels the same TAKE TIME TO ANSWER ALL THEIR QUESTIONS 4. PLAY Nothing makes a child happier than a parent who plays with them MAKE TIME TO PLAY 5. PARENTS WHO ARE NOT FIGHTING Nothing can be more disturbing for a child than parents who are fighting RESOLVE YOUR FIGHTS IN PRIVATE QUICKLY Your child needs to feel your love That is the only gift they need. Type GIFT And give your child These gifts this CHRISTMAS. Share this so that more parents start doing this And stop giving bigger and more expensive gifts that confuse children and make them unhappy Follow me to know how to make parenting easy through the application of neuroscience
Are you trying to pack your child’s life with activities and experiences?
Are you doing this to build their brain and personality? Is it working? Probably not. Because when you plan to do too many things – you are likely to always be in a rush. And that rush is going to leave your child feeling – 1. Exhausted – because their tiny bodies and growing brains can’t do so much. 2. Anxious – Because they are always being shouted at and scolded by you. 3. Unmotivated – Because they are constantly feeling unloved and unhappy. Is that your goal? No!!! Plan REST When your child is FRESH after resting enough, RELAXED because of not being constantly rushed, And CONFIDENT because they are making you happy, They will grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially – even if they don’t have all those activities and experiences. Stop being the RUSHED parent. Remember in parenting PRESENCE MATTERS MORE THAN PRESENTS Type SLOW and embrace a new way of parenting in 2024. Share this to inspire parents around you and reduce the peer pressure. Follow me for more.
Are you tired of shouting at your child? Do they NEVER listen no matter how much you shout? Then you should stop shouting Because shouting DOES NOT WORK When someone shouts at us we feel like moving away from the person and closing our ears That is what your child does too When someone whispers we feel like going close to them and trying to listen with more focus. That is what will happen if you whisper. When you want your child to listen Call them Or Go to them And whisper excitedly. The chances that your child will listen will be much higher Because it will feel like they are playing Let's think about the things that are not working in parenting and change them now. Type YES And begin this today. DM me if you would like to subscribe to my life changing course for the parents of 0 to 7 year olds. It is a 5 module, recorded course with lifetime access to the content. And you get support on a FB community for 6 months Subscribe within 24 hours of receiving the subscription link and you get a 30 minute online consultation with me free. Let us be better parents in 2024
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