Do you say what you hear other parents say?

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Do you say what you hear other parents say?

Do you say what you were told when you were a child?

Do you say what you like without thinking about its impact?

Then it is time to stop now.

Let 2024 be the year of conscious parenting.

In 2024 think about the words you are say and the impact it may have on your child and their future.

Don’t focus on getting things done.

Focus on helping your child become the best version of themselves.

To begin – stop saying these 3 things

1.
“If you don’t come – I am going without you.”
Do you say this when your child is refusing to leave the park or a play date.
Even if this makes you child run after you – what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child that you can threaten and emotionally blackmail your loved ones into listening to you.
Tomorrow when they are teens – be prepared for them to threaten to leave the house to get you to agree to their demands.

2. 
“Stop crying. There is nothing to cry about.”
Do you shut down your child’s tears like this when you are in a hurry or guilty or embarrassed?
Even if this makes your child stop crying – what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child to ignore their emotions and thereby making your child less emotionally intelligent.
Have you heard EQ is more important than IQ? Sending your child to an emotional intelligence class will not fix their low EQ if you do this.

3.
“Stop doing that. You are making me sad.”
Do you emotionally blackmail your child into listening to you by saying that?
Even if this makes your child listen to you immediately – what are you teaching your child?
You are teaching your child that they must do things to make other people happy all the time.
You are turning your child into a people pleaser.
People pleasing is a trait that is sure to destroy your child’s ability to make good decisions.
You know that making good decisions is crucial for success. How will your child succeed if you damage their ability to make good decisions?

You want to do the best for your child – but - are you doing what will be best for your child?

Maybe not.

Type STOP and change now.

In 2024 – start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE

Happy New Year!