At the #corporateparenting #workshop that I conducted yesterday
I spoke on how to ensure that our children
WANT to do
what WE want them to do.
In my experience of consulting with parents over the past 10 years
I have found that the biggest challenge in parenting is MAKING children do what they NEED to do.
Parents are almost in tears trying to get their children to do basic tasks through the day.
Even tasks like eating, taking a bath and so on.
Parents hate reminding their children.
And children hate being reminded.
And at times there is so much hate in the air that they almost begin to imagine that they hate each other.
Is there a way out of this?
Yes there is.
And I spoke on that in my workshop.
Depending on the age of your child and what they need to do at a particular age - you need to parent in a way that your child wants to do what they need to do.
And the good news is - that it is not at all difficult.
It was a wonderful session - with lots of interaction.
And I was thrilled with the amazing feedback.
So grateful for these opportunities to make parenting fun for so many parents.
It was so good to be back on campus at one my most favorite schools - the Trio World Academy (@trio_world_academy)
I have been working with the Trio schools for the past 9 years now.
And for me this is a truly treasured association.
I have always loved being a part of their constant effort to ensure that teachers - parents and students understand each other and work together in harmony.
And after two years of working with them online - it was so good to be back on campus with them.
I love how Trio is full of smiles and warmth and passion and ownership.
And I love how energized I feel after I come back.
This time in addition to energising it was also exciting because of all the amazing new changes that have happened in the two years of the pandemic.
The school has become bigger and better in terms of infrastructure.
But it has also made so many small changes to make the place happier.
And that is what I really loved.
Eagerly looking forward to my days there this year 🙂
The first 24 hours after birth - often - go from being a time to celebrate the arrival of the newborn - to a time of panic because
1. There is no milk
2. The baby is not latching.
Precious hours are lost in stressing over these two things - and this impacts mother and baby in the days to come.
So what should you do when you think you don't have milk and when your baby is not able to latch.
I share a complete strategy for breastfeeding in the first 24 hours after birth in this article that I have written for Morisons Baby Dreams
"I am fed up of giving her everything she asks for - agreeing to everything she says and not getting anything in return.
She never keeps her end of the bargain.
And we are not asking for too much.
Just that she should perform at school.
But all we are getting - are - poor marks, complains from teachers and to top it of arrogance and back answering from her."
In my practice as parenting consultant - I am always consulting with parents with these complains.
I empathize with the parents.
It is disappointing when there is no ROI ( return on investment)
But are children really not performing because they are arrogant and entitled?
The answer is NO.
Having something and knowing how to use it to make life better are two completely different things.
So they ask you to buy a certain online tutoring course - but when it arrives they don't know how to study it.
They abandon that and ask you to put them in certain tuition class.
When they join it, they are far behind everyone else, can't understand a thing and soon give up.
A lot of money has now left your pockets and you start getting fed up of getting zero return on your investment.
Things get bitter.
You feel disappointed and feel like giving up.
But....DON'T GIVE UP!!
Stop assuming that this is arrogance and a lax attitude.
Look how desperately your child is trying to find a way to succeed.
Empathize with how difficult it must be for them to never find success in spite of doing what seems to be working for everyone else.
Yes - your child is struggling.
Your child is not giving you a hard time - they are having a hard time.
Your expectation that your child perform - without empathy for why your child is not performing is destroying your relationship with your child.
And leaving your child completely alone at an extremely difficult time.
Don't withdraw and give up on your child - when what you really need to do is jump in and do what you can to save the day.
If you don't know what to do - reach out for help.
It was such a huge honor to be invited to share my journey as a entrepreneur at the New Horizon College of Engineering on this day in 2020.
More certainly a journey of more failures than successes... But absolutely LOVING the ride.
The joy is in the journey.
The destination is never important
Adding the link to my talk in comments in case you want to listen to what I said.
I was flooded with compliments for the next two days for talking about how I enjoy ploughing through my challenges.
Two teens whose families I was mentoring - recently got into medical colleges that they were aiming for.
To say that I am thrilled would be an understatement.
I am really so happy.
The children are brilliant, talented, motivated and focused.
And their parents are loving understanding and focused on helping their children achieve their goals.
Why did they need mentoring then?
Would be the most obvious question to ask.
Because the goal they wanted to achieve was huge.
When they came to me - each member of these families was doing whatever they could to ensure that their children reached their ambitious goals.
And yet somehow things were not working out.
Every conversation was turning into an argument in their houses.
This was creating rifts in a families with strong attachments.
And resulting in brilliant students performing way below their capability.
Through my mentoring I built empathy.
I answered questions that they had about each other's seemingly weird behavior.
I helped them to build better channels of communication within the family.
I helped them resolve conflicts.
I helped them calm down and work without fear and anxiety.
To put it very briefly I guided them on how to work as a team.
To pull together when required
To push together when required.
Not pull when someone else was pushing and push when someone else was pulling.
And the results of the team work are now there for all of them to enjoy.
Often parents hesitate to reach out for mentoring.
There is a stigma attached to reaching out for help with parenting.
And that results in losing out on achieving goals that are just beyond the reach of the child.
If you think your child has it in them to achieve what they dream of...
Don't allow the lack of teamwork in your family to come in the way of their dreams.
Reach out for help today
An article in The Times of India this morning talks about how -
Which disease you get and how quickly and successfully you recover from it depends on your gut flora.
Of course this is not a new finding
But is very significant in connection with COVID because for the first time in many years so many people across the world have been afflicted by the same virus.
And the rates at which they have fallen sick and the speed at which they have recovered have varied considerably.
Of course this is because of the genes they carry.
But it is important to remember that we have a genetic structure that we are born with.
And a genetic structure that we acquire - the second genome.
Which is made up of the genes of the organisms that inhabit our bodies.
And the largest number of these organisms live in the gut.
And that is why gut health is extremely important.
I have written two very important articles on this for Morisons Baby Dreams (@morisonsbabydreams)
And I also talk about it in detail in my book -
Building immunity in Kids
Published by @juggernaut.in
Do read them to stay safe from disease