What are you teaching your child about failure?
When children learn the right things about failure – failure and disappointment actually become good for them.
As loving parents we often go to great lengths to protect our children from disappointment and failure in the early years.
We buy them the toy that another kid has.
We fight to protect them from every playground tiff.
We spring into action if they are left out of birthday parties, if they are not included in playground games, if they are left out of school events etc.
We do this without realizing that – introduction to failure early in life is a beautiful thing because – to a small child – no failure is too big.
Also with every failure comes the opportunity to realize – “I am strong enough to handle this”
Start with your toddler. Every time he/she falls repeat the mantra – “What do we do when we fall – we get up and run again”.
It creates a positive state of mind – that ensures easy recovery from failure.
If you have been doing everything you can to save your child from failure - make an effort to change things now.
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Dr Debmita Dutta is doctor (20+ years) and a parenting consultant (10+ years). She is a renowned thought leader in parenting, the author of 7 popular books on parenting published by Juggernaut Books, a celebrated content creator and an extremely sought-after speaker on parenting
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At a consultation last week - a very harassed and hassled mother sat across from me online.
Her son had been heaped with a ton of diagnoses.
ADHD, ODD, LD and so on.
She had a long list of things that she needed to make her child do - to help him with his challenges.
But because of all his challenges - he was unable to co-operate with her in doing what needed to be done.
She was frustrated and fuming.
She was disappointed and demotivated.
"I don't know what to do. "
Was the one thing she kept repeating.
"How about you shift your focus from making him do things - to changing yourself? "
She looked at me doubtfully.
But as I showed her how SHE was influencing his behavior.
And how changing herself was the key to changing his approach to working on himself - she slowly started nodding her head.
And two days later I received this message from her.
Her delight is literally leaping out of every word in that message.
"Yes! It is working!!" She says.
Yes it does.
So much of parenting is about the PARENTS.
All you need to do is change yourself.
You cannot and should not even TRY to change your child.
That is an automatic consequence of changing yourself.
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