Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?

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Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?

That is a mistake

It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time.

But that is not good for your child
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When your child argues – they BUILD THEIR BRAIN

And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like -

CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY

Yes!!

To argue – your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING

And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem

If you get angry and upset when your child argues – you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills.

Don’t get angry 
Don’t agree
Don’t ignore.

Instead – follow these 5 steps – 

1. LISTEN calmly – set a good example
2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset – that will calm them down
3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution – it will encourage them to think
4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better – to teach communication skills
5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground – to teach conflict resolution

Every conflict is an opportunity to – 
1. Understand your child
2. Build their brain
3. Strengthen your relationship.

Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting.

Be the adult in the relationship 

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