If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem

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If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem 

Involve them in household chores

Even toddlers can do many chores

When a child does chores it helps them to feel 

CAPABLE 
CONFIDENT 
IMPORTANT 

This makes them feel happy and become responsible 

But 

When we give children reward points for doing chores it takes all this away.

As soon as Rewards are introduced, your child starts doing the chores for Rewards.

The happiness they should feel Because they are contributing to the family is replaced by the anxiety of losing the reward.

The responsibility they would otherwise have developed is replaced by greed.

And to add to it they feel shame Because the chart is publicly displayed 

A whole range of negative emotions replaces the positive emotions that chores are supposed to generate. 

And this leads to low self-esteem 

Do you use reward charts? 

Type YES or NO.

Stop using then now.

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