Yesterday at a consultation - a mom asked me
"Why does my child always get into the wrong company?
I have moved him through three schools in the hope that at the next school - he will get into better company.
But every time - he has made friends with the bullies and troublemakers in the school.
Is there something wrong with him?
Why does he gravitate towards people who are doing the wrong things?
We are very worried about what will happen when he goes to college and is on his own."
My answer -
You don't need to be keep him away from the 'bad crowd'.
You need to raise his SELF-ESTEEM.
Your child is not attracted to 'bad' people.
He is attracted to people who have low self-esteem.
No child is really 'bad'.
Children with low self esteem do things that are considered bad.
And since your son has low self-esteem - he is attracted to those children.
Raise his self-esteem and he will change the crowd he hangs out with.
High self-esteem is critical to good decision making. Especially when it comes to decisions about who they should choose to build relationships with.
If you are want your child to make better decisions - work on raising their self-esteem.
If you are wondering what you can do to raise your child's self-esteem - reach out for help.