When you need to leave – to go to work
When you need to leave – after the drop off at school
When you need to leave – after the drop-off at day care
And your child starts crying and throwing a tantrum – it can be heart wrenching.
You don’t want it to happen ever again
But the more you wish it away – the more frequent it becomes.
This is a pattern many moms fall into – and I can hear the desperation in their voice when they call me for a consultation to ask for help.
I empathize because it is a very tough spot to be stuck in.
And advice like “Just walk away” doesn’t work unless you have gone much deeper and acknowledged that your child’s separation anxiety in fuelled by yours.
So, you must start with quelling your own separation anxiety.
And to do that you must recognize that there are two parts to it.
Part 1 – What will they do without me
Part 2 – What will I do without them
Separation anxiety is almost inevitable – learn to examine your feelings and respond to it instead of reacting to it.
Because separations are inevitable.
Set the right tone for separations when you separate from your child in the early years.
Create a solid foundation for courage and resilience.