"My daughter hates me today for making her practice music and take exams. But I don't care. I know one day she will realize how valuable this is and then she will thank me."
A mom I was speaking to the other day proclaimed.
Do you agree that being hated today is okay?
The way I look at it... Today is all we have..... No one knows what will happen tomorrow.
And I am not sure if knowing how to play the piano will help my child face the challenges that come up.
But I am positive that the emotional strength that comes from being loved - will give her the resilience she needs to overcome the challenges.
But does that mean that I will not ask her to practice playing the piano today and not encourage her to take exams in it?
Not at all.
But instead of prioritizing the skill she is acquiring... I will prioritize the relationship we are building as she learns a new skill.
That in my opinion is the true meaning of "slow parenting".... And that is what I really mean when I say that we need to parent without agenda.
The agenda should only be to love and be loved. Everything else is incidental.