In the 10 years of my parenting practice - I have always met very involved Dads.
My parenting workshops are full of enthusiastic Dads
And a large number of the calls that I receive for consultations are made by Dads.
But in the past year or two - something has changed.
Whereas calls from Dads earlier used to go like this -
"I want to learn what to DO to make my child ........"
Calls nowadays go like this -
"I want to learn how to BE the best version of myself. And the best parent to my child."
There is a significant difference here.
Dads have begun to recognize that they can take the "PARENTING PATH" to self-actualization. Which means that they recognize that being the best parent they can be - can make them the best version of themselves. And they are willing to do anything for that.
"I can change jobs / move cities / quit my job.... Just do anything"
They tell me.
And as the problem of Dads leaving the workforce threatens to look like the problem of moms leaving the workforce - it is important to note that this is the real reason.
Dads recognize that parenting makes them more mindful and more expressive and compels them to grow.
It allows them to "be more" "feel more" and thereby "live more"
Dads are now willing to take drastic steps to have this.
But drastic steps are usually not necessary.
It is possible to achieve all this with small tweaks to the way they currently play their roles.
And I feel privileged that I am in a place where I can help them discover and implement these tweaks.
The world becomes a better place when each person on earth lives a fulfilling life. And I love that I am playing a role in making the world a better place.