Does your child cry over everything?

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Does your child cry over everything?

Are you tired of the tears that appear in their eyes whenever you say anything?

Then you need to ask yourself these 4 questions

Question 1 – 

Do I get irritated when my child cries?

If the answer to this is yes – then stop and ask yourself how you would like to be treated when you cry.
How would you feel if the person who you expected would understand you – just got irritated?
You would feel sad. And the sadness would make you cry more.

Allow your child to cry. Try to understand why they are sad.
That will reduce their sadness and pain and they will cry less.

Question 2

Do I get upset when my child says or does something I don’t want?

If the answer to this question is yes – then understand this – your child starts crying because they are scared that you will get upset as soon as they disagree with you.

Whenever they want something different from you therefore – the fear makes them cry.

Stop being so rigid. Allow your child to think and say what they want without getting angry even if you don’t agree.

Question 3 

Am I always in a hurry and focused on perfection?

If the answer to that question is yes – then you are probably scolding your child whenever they are slow or when they make a mistake.

This lowers their self-esteem and fills them with so much fear when they speak that they start crying.

Slow down. Enjoy imperfection. When your child has high self-esteem they will not cry.

Question 4 

Do I blame my child when things go wrong?

You may not do this directly – but even if your child hears you telling someone else that you couldn’t do something because of you, they will start blaming themselves for everything.

And this guilt will make them cry.

Never complain about your child to others

How many of these questions did you answer with YES?

Type NO and decide that you will ensure that very soon all the answers become NO.

Share this on your story so that you must keep your promise to change.

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