"Should I leave my job?"
This is a question I am asked by many of the moms I consult with
When they find that things are going wrong with their child.
And they see their children throwing tantrums and crying when they are away at work.
Yesterday I was asked this question by another mom whom I was consulting with.
My answer always is another question
"Do you want to work?"
And like every other mother I have ever consulted with she said
"I am not sure. If my working is going to emotionally scar my child, I don't want to work. But otherwise I do."
My take "You need to decide if you want to work.
And you need to clearly understand your reasons for working.
If you really want to work - don't quit.
Because making sacrifices always builds resentment.
And that will impact your relationship with your child."
"But I can't bear to see him cry." She said
"Let's work to put together a strategy to ensure that he doesn't cry." I say.
Is it possible?
Oh yes it is.
I have been working with moms who want to go back to work for 10 years now. And it has worked every time.
The key is empathy, compassion, honesty and vulnerability.
Everyone cooperates when the above 4 things are applied to an interaction. Even a less than one-year-old child.
Success stories abound.
Make sure you are one of them.
When I presented my work on overcoming maternal guilt and achieving a work life balance at World Congress on Women in 2019.
I was applauded profusely for it by the Kiran Bedi Ma'am ( then Lt Governor of Puducherry).
She spoke to me at length about the importance of my work and encouraged me to forge ahead on my chosen path.
Thank you Ma'am.