At my workshop on Sunday for Kreopl(@kreopl) - I spoke about -
1. Why teenagers are distracted and what we can do to help them focus
2. Why they procrastinate and what we can do to motivate them to do their work on time
3. Why they are unable to understand the consequences of not putting in hardwork. And how we can make them want to work hard.
The workshop was very well received by the extremely enthusiastic participants.
And I loved conducting it.
Then when we began the Q and A session - one parent asked me -
"What if one parent completely refuses to work on these aspects of the teenagers life with empathy and compassion like you have explained?
What if they continue shouting and punishing which you have said are completely counter productive?
What can be done?"
My answer -
Every child needs at least ONE person to be their safe space.
Every child needs at least ONE person who understands their challenges and is willing to work with them to find a way to overcome them.
Of course if they had two people (both parents) it would be amazing.
But one parent is enough too.
Begin with the right way of motivating your child to study.... And see your child's performance improve.
As your child's performance improves you will find the other parent changing automatically.
Because there will be nothing left to shout about and punish for.. ..They will stop shouting and threatening.
One person - one parent - is what every teen (child) needs to change
Be that one person.
Begin the transformation.
Don't allow the other parent's reluctance to change - stop you from helping your teen study and get good marks.