I know a lot of teens and preteens
And what stands out for me through this lockdown is the fact that every teen I know is involved in doing something constructive and creative
None of them are whiling away their time - or sticking to devices all day
But that is the general perception about teenagers isn't it?
That they are not motivated - they are not focused - they are lazy - they are device addicts
I think we need to know our teens better.
What do you say?
The challenge however is that teens change so rapidly from week to week that when we are busy with our everyday lives - we often miss out on who they are becoming - who they are changing into.
That is why I have created this 8 point checklist for every week.
Tick off these 8 things every week as you do these tasks - and you will be able to to keep pace with who your teen is turning into
Do share if you have any suggestions
And let me know how it goes
The world changes….people do - perceptions do.
Children brought up to think that there is absolutely no difference between boys and girls think so differently – it is hilarious.
So – some days ago my daughter was studying about the purdah system.
She read that when women wanted to speak to men they stood behind a wall with holes. From there they could see the men while they spoke to them – without being seen themselves.
How fair is that? She asked indignantly.
If the men can’t see the women – the women should not be allowed to see the men either!
We are all human beings – and everyone is equal and has equal rights – we have always taught her – with hilarious results
When LOVE arrives at your doorstep on Sunday morning ........
It comes in a brown paper bag that says TinniGinni and Griham
And the bearer says Srobona Madam ne bheja hai.
I wanted to hug you Srobona for making my Sunday so happy....
but I couldn't ....
So I hugged the bag with the yummmmm breakfast.
Bedmi puri....ras wale aloo ki sabji.....kheer......
A heavenly spread!!!
The authentic taste reminded me of my days in UP.
Thank you for the birthday treat.
LOVE YOU !!!
The other day an expecting couple in their 9th week of pregnancy approached me for an online nutrition consultation. They were in extreme distress.
The expecting mom was ravenously hungry almost all the time.
But as soon as she took a few bites of food she started feeling extremely queasy and threw up.
Of course this was a crazy situation.
And to combat this she was trying to keep herself on fluids.
But that wasn’t working.
As soon as she drank something – she would throw up.
So we worked on a strategy to keep the nausea down.
Avoid DRINKING – eat.
Eat something crunchy which requires you to munch on it a good bit before you swallow.
And that worked like magic for them.
Children and their behaviour are NOT the cause of Parenting Despair. Not understanding that behaviour and not knowing what to do about it is. That is why parenting classes are important
Do you feel small sometimes? Inadequate? Incapable?
And when that happens – I turn to books. I start reading.
In fact I read a lot – to ensure that I don’t feel small and powerless.
Because knowledge is power.
When you know how things work and how you can make them work – you feel powerful.
Children (toddlers and preschoolers) ARE SMALL and they ARE POWERLESS and that is one of the reasons they misbehave and throw tantrums – just to feel bigger and more powerful.
But throwing tantrums does not have to be the only way for them to feel powerful.
If we teach them how to read really early – we can help them to feel powerful.
It sounds beautiful doesn't it?
But I have seen a lot of parents struggle to put it into practice.
Because it is too vast and there are too many things that can be done... And as a result nothing gets done.
So yesterday on VICHARSTHAL by Anupama Dalmia.... As we spoke on Mindful Parenting.... I shared....
My 3M formula to succeed with Mindful Parenting.
And below is the feedback I received on the session from a parent who watched the session LIVE.
I am sharing the link to the YouTube video below where you can learn all about these 3 Ms and how to implement them.
Children do things to feel CHALLENGED
If you don't like the challenge your child is engaged in
REDIRECT them to a different challenge
Every year - in the first week of January - I receive a call from the Carmel Academy Bangalore.
As soon as the year begins we work on dates for Parenting workshops at their school.
I love that call and over the years it has become a beginning of the year ritual for me
We did the same in Jan 2020 -
The year is not going according to plan - but this amazing school has stuck to it's plan of helping parents with their parenting journey.
I was delighted to conduct this online workshop for their parents.
Yes all of us need to learn how to parent in the new normal. And I was delighted to help parents with suggestions about what they can do to make this easier for themselves and their children.
Thank you Father for the opportunity.
In recent times “HOW to parent” has become so important, that we have forgotten “WHY we are parenting.”
What do we really want for our children?
If the answer is success and happiness – What is success? And what really brings us happiness?
With every generation the definition of success and happiness changes.
Will our children really consider topping the entrance exams as success?
Will winning with blinkers on, truly make them happy?
If we look at the millennial way of living – that values experiences more than things , it seems unlikely.
So why not stop looking for the shore and start enjoying the swim?
Life is in the journey and not in the destination.
If we start enjoying every moment instead of living for a time when we have “finished”parenting and can step back and admire our creation - Will it make parenting easier?
I think it will. What about you?