Why do teens lie?
1. Because you don't understand Your teenagerâs world is very different from yours. Don't dismiss their emotions as a waste of time. Fights with friends, not getting invited to outings and other things like this which seem minor to us are actually huge for them. Listen and empathize 2. Because they don't feel good enough Teens are terrified of disappointing their parents. Don't get angry when they perform badly. Focus on learning from failures. 3. Because you always say "no" The teens are a time of exploring and experimenting. Teens will explore and experiment no matter what you say. Stop saying NO And start saying YES to what they want to do. Then help them find a way to do what they want in a safe way. Your teen does not WANT to lie. Your teen wants you to understand Your teen needs your help Your teen needs your support Be the parent your teen needs so that your teen can be themselves. That will stop the lying #parenting #teenage #lying #lies #parentingexpert
Do you feel GUILTY about not being THE PERFECT PARENT?
Then I want to tell you today That children don't need PERFECT PARENTS Your child needs an IMPERFECT parent Who makes mistakes But js not afraid to admit their mistake and say sorry This teaches your child not to blame someone else when things go wrong It teaches them to take OWNERSHIP Your child needs a parent who promises never to make the same mistake again And takes steps to ensure that the mistake does not happen again This teaches your child how to IMPROVE Your child needs a parent who can forgive themselves for their mistakes and move on This teaches your child RESILIENCE Children need parents who can INSPIRE them by having the courage to be IMPERFECT and the strength to learn and IMPROVE. GUILT is useless Are you ready To stop being GUILTY Type READY And change your childâs life now. Share this And follow me for more #parenting #guilt #fearoffailure #motherhoodguilt#workingmom #imperfect Are you worried about your child’s anger?
Does your child get angry easily? Is your child always angry? Are you afraid of your child’s anger issues? Help your child control their anger with PLAY Play is magical.
Use the 7 games that I have described below to reduce your child’s angry outbursts.
Draw faces that are happy, sad, angry, embarrassed, scared, loving etc on them Place the chits in a box. Hold up a soft toy in front of your face. Ask your child to do the same. Pick a chit – act out the emotion drawn as if you are the monkey or dog or teddy bear that you are holding in front of your face. Ask your child to name the emotion. Then let your child do the same. Be as silly and fun as you can. Have lots of laughs. You can expand the game to explore what can be done when each emotion emerges. Purpose – This game builds your child’ emotion vocabulary. Your child learns to identify and name the emotion they are feeling when they feel it the next time. They can then ask for your help to manage the emotion. 2. FINGER CHAT Make cones by rolling up paper. Draw an angry face on one cone and a smiling face on the other cone. Place one cone on your index finger and the other one on your child’s index finger If you have the angry cone – say things that your child says when they are angry. Let your child suggest ways to calm you down. Then exchange roles. Be funny and even absurd with what can be done to feel better when someone is angry. You can do this for other emotions as well. Purpose - This game helps your child to think up things that can be done when they are angry the next time. 3. BALL BUMP Take a football and write questions in each section of the ball. The questions can be - What makes you angry? What do you do when you are angry? Instead of shouting what else can you do when you are angry? What makes you scared? Where do you feel anger in your body? What do you need when you ae angry? Throw the ball between the players. The player who catches the ball has to answer the question under their thumb. Purpose - It gives your child a chance to think and express themselves. 4. ANGER FREEZE Play music. When the music stops all the players have to freeze with angry expressions on their faces To melt from their freeze they must say what makes them angry and what they can do to feel less angry. Purpose - This game helps your child think back to times when they were angry and build acceptable new strategies to manage anger in the future. 5. POOL PLAY Give your child lots of time to splash around and play with water. You don’t have to go to the pool for this. It can be done with a tub of water at home. Purpose – This game uses the immense sensory power of water to keep your child in the moment. It reduces their anxiety and stress and calms them down. 6. CRUSH AND THROW Give your child several sheets of old newspaper. Let them crush each sheet in their hands and make a ball. Have a competition and see who can throw the paper balls the farthest. Talk about how thinking and throwing is more effective than throwing hurriedly. Purpose - This game helps your child to think and act while spending their energy and having fun. 7. MAKE A TENT Help your child to make a tent. Place three chairs in a triangle. Drape them with a bed sheet. Let your child crawl under the bed sheet and live in the ‘tent’. Purpose - A tent gives your child a space of their own where they can go to calm down, feel in control, feel safe and think. Never underestimate the power of play and playfulness in overcoming the challenges that you face in parenting. Follow me on Instagram @debmitadutta for neuroscience based tips and tricks for easy parenting. |
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