How to end MOM GUILT

Dr Debmita Dutta MBBS,MD

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​“You won’t feel less guilty is you stop working.” I keep telling moms who ask me if they should stop working and stay at home.
If working was the problem – stay-at-home-moms would not feel guilty. But they do.

The fact is that moms are designed by nature to feel guilty – 
So that they stay close to their children – and keep them safe.
So that they do more for their children.
So that they do what everyone else is doing and their family fits seamlessly into the social fabric.

But does guilt help?
NO.

Because children don’t need us to do more. They need us to BE more.
They need us to BE more confident – so that they can learn by exploring and experimenting
They need us to BE more mindful – so that they can build their self-esteem by feeling seen
They need us to BE free of peer pressure – so that they can stand out on the power of their strengths

What is the obstacle to feeling confident?
Being unsure while making parenting decisions. Not knowing what a child truly NEEDS – makes every decision a struggle between what they WANT – what you WANT and what the world WANTS

What is the obstacle to being mindful?
A widely propagated belief that doing more is better – buy more, feed more, do more activities. But more dilutes focus. More scatters emotions. More fractures relationships. More makes us poor.

What is the obstacle to freedom from peer pressure?
The inability to recognize the super power of unique strengths - because when powerful qualities that make children unique start manifesting – they are often ignorantly labelled bad behaviors by those who lack those qualities.

Mom Guilt is bad for everyone.
It is bad for the mom. It is bad for the child. It is bad for the world.

What is the solution?
Learn parenting – use NEUROSCIENCE AND PHYSIOLOGY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR CHILD REALLY NEEDS and the easiest way to give it.
I have been helping parents use NEUROSCIENCE and PHYSIOLOGY in parenting for the past 10 years and I can tell you the results are magical.

Are you carrying the load of Mom Guilt? Do you want to learn how to shake it off and do the best for yourself and your child? 

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