Rewards are as bad as punishment

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Rewards are as bad as punishment 

Children who are constantly punished become fearful of loss.
Children who are constantly rewarded become fearful of loss too.

And both slowly weaken the growing brain and its capabilities

1. To build motivation, children need meaning.
But rewards teach children to focus on prizes instead of learning, effort or curiosity.

2. To build confidence, children need self-belief.
But constant praise and rewards train the brain to depend on external validation.

3. To build resilience, children need mistakes.
But reward and punishment focused children often avoid hard things unless success is guaranteed.

4. To build emotional stability, children need connection.
Fear and rewards both shift the focus toward pleasing adults instead of creating authentic connection 

5. To build independent thinking, children need autonomy.
But when behaviour is constantly controlled through rewards or punishment,
children stop thinking and start doing what others want them to do.

Rewards may create short-term obedience.
But internally motivated children grow stronger brains

Share this now with someone who is always getting things done by giving rewards.