Do your child’s tantrums go on and on

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Do your child’s tantrums go on and on.

Then you could be making these 3 mistakes – 

Mistake 1 – You get angry

When you get angry your child gets sacred and the tantrum increases.

Stay calm
Stay near your child
Bend down 
Speak softly and lovingly

This will reduce your child’s fear and the tantrum will stop

Mistake 2 – You get embarrassed

When you get embarrassed, your child feels that you care about other people more than them.
This makes them sad and the tantrum increases

Stay quiet for a while and just listen
When your child makes eye contact – say “I understand”
When your child feels understood the tantrum will stop 

Mistake 3 – You ignore your child

When you ignore your child – your child feels disconnected with you
Your child’s connection with you is like their oxygen supply.
When your child loses connection with you, they panic and the tantrum increases.

Stay close
Listen 
Offer a hug
Hold them and comfort them
When your child feels connected with you the tantrum will stop.

Tantrums that go on for a long time can have a negative impact on your child’s development. 

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Share this so that those who tell you to scold / punish / ignore your child during tantrums – see this and realize that their methods are just making the tantrums worse.

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Note – if you are doing everything right and your child is still having frequent tantrums that go on for 15 minutes or more, especially if your child is older than 4 years – please consult with a developmental pediatrician.