Do you love your children equally?

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Do you love your children equally?

Of course YES

But do your children keep saying - 

“YOU DON’T LOVE ME. 

YOU LOVE MY BROTHER / SISTER MORE THAN ME.”

If yes – you need to fix 3 MISTAKES that are creating this RIVALRY – 

1.MISTAKE 1

Trying to give them everything EQUALLY 

When you try to make everything equal – you have to compare what you give one child with what you give the other one so that you can give them the same things.
This makes your children focus on comparing and measuring 
They start measuring your love with the things they get.
This makes them feel you love them less when they see even a slight difference in what they get

What to do – 
Give fewer things. 
Teach your children how to share by playing with them 

2. MISTAKE 2

COMPARING to motivate your children

Comparison is not motivating
When you compare – it makes your child believe that they are not good enough.
And they start thinking that you love the better child more.

What to do – 
Treat each child like an individual. 
Motivate them by highlighting their strengths.

3. MISTAKE 3

SOLVING their fights instead of teaching them PROBLEM SOLVING

When you step into your children’s fights and give them your solution to end the fight – your children will always feel that your solution is unfair.
The child who has to adjust will think you love the other child more.

What to do -
Help your children to brainstorm and come up with many solutions.
Then teach them how to select a win-win solution.

Type END and End sibling rivalry today by fixing these mistakes 

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