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“You won’t feel less guilty is you stop working.” I keep telling moms who ask me if they should stop working and stay at home.
If working was the problem – stay-at-home-moms would not feel guilty. But they do. The fact is that moms are designed by nature to feel guilty – So that they stay close to their children – and keep them safe. So that they do more for their children. So that they do what everyone else is doing and their family fits seamlessly into the social fabric. But does guilt help? NO. Because children don’t need us to do more. They need us to BE more. They need us to BE more confident – so that they can learn by exploring and experimenting They need us to BE more mindful – so that they can build their self-esteem by feeling seen They need us to BE free of peer pressure – so that they can stand out on the power of their strengths What is the obstacle to feeling confident? Being unsure while making parenting decisions. Not knowing what a child truly NEEDS – makes every decision a struggle between what they WANT – what you WANT and what the world WANTS What is the obstacle to being mindful? A widely propagated belief that doing more is better – buy more, feed more, do more activities. But more dilutes focus. More scatters emotions. More fractures relationships. More makes us poor. What is the obstacle to freedom from peer pressure? The inability to recognize the super power of unique strengths - because when powerful qualities that make children unique start manifesting – they are often ignorantly labelled bad behaviors by those who lack those qualities. Mom Guilt is bad for everyone. It is bad for the mom. It is bad for the child. It is bad for the world. What is the solution? Learn parenting – use NEUROSCIENCE AND PHYSIOLOGY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR CHILD REALLY NEEDS and the easiest way to give it. I have been helping parents use NEUROSCIENCE and PHYSIOLOGY in parenting for the past 10 years and I can tell you the results are magical. Are you carrying the load of Mom Guilt? Do you want to learn how to shake it off and do the best for yourself and your child? #IWD #momguilt #diversity #DIE
Don't make your child OBEDIENT
If your child does not learn to say NO If your child does not learn to speak up when they are treated unfairly If your child does not learn to insist on getting what they deserve They will always be given More work Less salary Delayed promotions Stop insisting on obedience Teach communication skills Type SUCCESS and share this now to make your child SUCCESSFUL #obedience #discipline #work
“They just don’t listen.”
What are we really saying when we say that? Leaders I work with - say that about their teams. Parents I work with - say that about their children. But what are they really saying? They are saying that they are poor communicators. The onus of understanding lies with the person speaking. Not with the person listening. People don’t LISTEN when they don’t UNDERSTAND. When I tell leaders this, they are indignant. They say – “But my instruction is absolutely CLEAR.” Yes – being clear is important. But it tells the listener WHAT TO DO. It does not tell the listener WHY And no thinking human being will do something if they don’t understand the WHY - unless there are CONSEQUENCES. When communication only focuses on telling people what to do - we are compelled to bring inconsequences in the form of REWARDS and PUNISHMENTS to get things done. Rewards and punishments make people feel CONTROLLED And that kills motivation. QUIET QUITTING is the new term we are using to describe this. Gen Z are digital natives. They have their own way of getting things done. We don’t need to tell them WHAT TO DO. We only need to help them understand WHY. The problem is – that as leaders – we often don’t know WHY either. That is why we are so focused on the WHAT. Through my work I help leaders and parents articulate their WHY. When we find ourselves frustrated because “they don’t listen to me” – It is time to explore our own WHY. Do you agree? #motivation #quietquitting #genZ
Do you shout at your child when they are studying?
Stop now It is destroying their brain They will never do well in exams if you shout Watch the video to know why Type STOP and stop shouting Share this now so that others who shout at your child stop shouting
Do you use a sippy cup?
Stop now Sippy cups can cause speech delays and picky eating Here is what happens when sippy cups are used 1. Your child does not develop a mature swallow pattern. This makes them dislike foods with new textures And makes them fussy and slow eaters 2. Your child’s mouth and tongue muscles remain weak This results in difficulty pronouncing some words 3. When a child uses a sippy cup - they often drink an excess of fluids This fills them up and makes them refuse to eat solid food 4. When a child uses a sippy cup, they talk less because their mouth is full. This results in the child talking less and learning slowly When your baby turns 6 months old – start them on a tiny open cup like the cups used to give medicine. When your baby turns 9 months old you can introduce a cup with a short chewable silicone straw. Type STOP and stop using a sippy cup today. SHARE THIS NOW and let all parents know #sippycup #fussyeating #speechdelay #pickyeating |
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