Before you call your child STUBBORN for NOT LISTENING to you

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Before you call your child STUBBORN for NOT LISTENING to you

Understand why your child is not listening.

It could be because of any of these 5 reasons – 

1. They are used to waiting for you to SHOUT

Have you fallen into the pattern of repeatedly asking your child to do something
And then ultimately shouting at them
Your child may have got used to this pattern and decided to do what you are saying only when you shout.

What to do – Stop shouting. Go close to your child and whisper. That will get their attention and make them listen

2. You are always saying NO DON'T DO THAT

If you are always stopping your child and telling them not to do what they want to do then you can be sure your child is not listening to you because they know you will stop them from doing what they want to do.

What to do – Aim to say only one or two NO s in a day. Reserve it for when your child is doing something dangerous

3. You THREATEN them

When you threaten your child you get them into the fighting mode.
They get into the mood to push you and see if you actually carry out your threat. That is why they don’t listen to you. 

What to do – Never THREATEN your child. Involve them in the decision making process so that they themselves do what you are saying because they want to do it.

4. You give ORDERS

No one likes to be ordered around. If you keep telling your child – do this – do that – they will surely ignore you

What to do – Explain what your child has to do and then allow them to do it their way. Do not micromanage

5. You don’t LISTEN TO THEM

Your child will listen to you if you listen to them.

What to do - Do the small things that they ask you to do. That will strengthen your relationship. What you say will then be easier for your child to understand and follow.

Don’t blame your child for being STUBBORN

Type OK and change yourself now

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