Are you a SUCCESSFUL WOMAN but a STRUGGLING MOM?

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Are you a SUCCESSFUL WOMAN but a STRUGGLING MOM?

If you are keep reading.

This is a frequent problem and many such struggling moms consult with me.

Why can’t I be as good at parenting as I am at work?

They ask me.

You CAN be – is my answer.

Just use my 3P formula

When you are parenting - 

1. Replace PRODUCTIVITY WITH PRESENCE

At work you need to be productive. You need to get as much work as possible done and have something to show at the end of each day.
Bringing the productive mindset to parenting can be disastrous.
Because parenting is a relationship – not a task.
You need to feel and be felt.
And you cannot accomplish that when you are focused on productivity
Practice MINDFULNESS

2. Replace PERFORMANCE WITH PARTICIPATION

At work you need to reach a goal. 
It is your goal and you have to do whatever it takes to get to your goal as soon as possible or within a deadline.
In parenting – you need to allow things to happen and participate in the process as and when required.
It is hard to stand back and watch but it is essential.
Pushing your child towards a goal set by you within a deadline decided by you – does not work and can make you feel unsuccessful and frustrated.
Parenting is not a race. RELAX 

3. Replace PERFECTION WITH PATIENCE

At work you are constantly trying to improve and become perfect.
Perfection is possible and essential when it comes to work.
But it can be huge roadblock to success when it comes to parenting.
Focusing on perfection can impact your relationship with your child because it tells your child that you think they are not perfect.
Believe that your child is perfect and they will do everything that they can to get better.
Don’t compare. ENJOY every moment of the journey.

SUCCESS is a FEELING in parenting

If you try to SEE success the way you see it at work through meeting deadlines, reaching goals and receiving awards and rewards – you will always feel unsuccessful.

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