Are you a Helicopter Parent?

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Are you a Helicopter Parent?
1. Are you constantly focused on ensuring that your child is the best at everything?
2. Do you insist that your child follows all your instructions?
3. Are you always trying to make your child perfect?
Then you are a helicopter parent

You may be thrilled with the results that you get with your child when they are in pre-primary and primary school.
Because your involvement will get your child A+ and 10/10
But when your child goes to high school – you may find their marks dipping because – 

1. Your child has ANXIETY 
They are worried that if they do badly you will be unhappy
Their anxiety makes them make silly mistakes

2. Your child is not used to THINKING
They have always been following your instructions without asking questions
Not thinking makes them lose marks in tricky questions

3. Your child wants to be PERFECT
They are used to an adult level of perfection
Aiming for perfection leads to them focusing on a few chapters in a few subjects. They miss out on finishing their syllabus before the exam.

If you want your child to ace exams in high school and beyond – 
1. Don’t do everything for your child – let them learn by doing – this teaches problem solving
2. Encourage them to ask questions and challenge the rules – this teaches critical thinking
3. Allow them to make mistakes so that they can learn from them – this builds resilience

Remember the goal of parenting is not to get your child the first prize.
The goal of parenting is to build an AMAZING BRAIN

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