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Yesterday at a consultation - a mom asked me
"Why does my child always get into the wrong company? I have moved him through three schools in the hope that at the next school - he will get into better company. But every time - he has made friends with the bullies and troublemakers in the school. Is there something wrong with him? Why does he gravitate towards people who are doing the wrong things? We are very worried about what will happen when he goes to college and is on his own." My answer - You don't need to be keep him away from the 'bad crowd'. You need to raise his SELF-ESTEEM. Your child is not attracted to 'bad' people. He is attracted to people who have low self-esteem. No child is really 'bad'. Children with low self esteem do things that are considered bad. And since your son has low self-esteem - he is attracted to those children. Raise his self-esteem and he will change the crowd he hangs out with. High self-esteem is critical to good decision making. Especially when it comes to decisions about who they should choose to build relationships with. If you are want your child to make better decisions - work on raising their self-esteem. If you are wondering what you can do to raise your child's self-esteem - reach out for help.  I had a rapt audience yesterday at my wellness workshop for the students of @Trioworldacademy
I loved it that on the first day of school for these students - the institution invited me to speak on HAPPINESS. The message that the students receive - when an institution does something like this is crystal clear. And the message is "We value your HAPPINESS over everything else" And that is such an important message to give children. Because often the inadvertent message that children receive from the world is - that - SUCCESS leads to HAPPINESS. And you must keep striving for success in order to be happy. And that only makes us UNHAPPY. Because the definition of success is constantly changing for all of us. But the truth is that HAPPINESS leads to SUCCESS. And it is extremely important that children understand this. And strive towards happiness. But what is HAPPINESS? Is there a difference between PLEASURE and HAPPINESS? Do negative emotions destroy HAPPINESS? Or do they play a role in the creation of HAPPINESS? How do you create HAPPINESS? What do you need to do every day as a student to ensure that you are happy? My workshop helped the children find answers to these questions. And as we went along they asked several extremely intelligent questions. I love this about the teenagers of today. They are so self-aware. They are constantly exploring how they can live better lives. And they jump at any opportunity to improve their understanding of life and take action to live better lives. It makes me so happy when I can support this endeavor with my knowledge of neuroscience and my experience of working with several hundreds of teens over the past 10 years. So grateful for this opportunity to make the world a happier place.
xSo many parents are asking me if it is okay for teens to listen to music all the time?
Find my answer in this video. A lot of parents who consult with me because they are struggling with work-life balance, tell me that they are toying with the idea of giving up their 'work' to spend time with their children and live 'life'.
But is staying home and spending time with children really life? Not really. Staying at home and being with children all day is also 'work'. Cleaning, organizing, dropping, picking up, getting homework done and so on also soon begin to look like work. To truly understand work-life balance then - it is important to understand what 'work' is. As long as we are doing anything that is linked to our identity - it is work. So if you identify as a professional and a parent - everything that you do to keep that identity intact in your mind - is work. So work-life balance can definitely not be achieved by giving up 'work'. It can only be achieved by relishing the experience of 'work'. And ensuring that the work we do - strengthens rather than weakens our relationships both personal and professional. This doesn't come naturally to most people and that is why they struggle with work-life balance. I love it that through my work over the years - I have been able to help many many parents achieve true work-life balance. Reach out for help if you are struggling to achieve work-life balance You are your child's first and most important guru.
Are you teaching your child these things? 1. How to constantly be curious about everything 2. How to be eager to learn everything. Whether it is the art of sweeping the floor or flying a plane 3. How to be willing to accept anyone as our teacher. The gardner can teach us something and so can a construction site worker. 4. How to fail with good humor and learn from it 5. How to persist until you succeed. 6. How to take responsibility for our learning and never get into a blame game when we do not succeed. 7. How to have fun while learning. You cannot teach these things in a class. You teach these things every day in the way we live our lives. Never underestimate the impact that everything you do - has on your child.  Honoured to be invited to speak on the FlexiStrong platform.
Thank you Shyam Steel Industries Ltd.(@shyam.steel) for this opportunity. Really excited about speaking on "The Pains and Gains of Parenting" Parenting is supposed to be filled with love and happiness. And so when your child's behavior causes you pain - it is just unbearable. If your pain is making you cry in private.... If your pain is compelling you to joke about it in public... If your pain is making you convince yourself that is there no way to gain without pain.... Join me on the 16th of July 2022 at 5:30 PM on Zoom. Let us discover what we can do to gain in parenting without suffering through pain Register now!! Thank you Lokesh Nathany(@lokeshnathany) for this privilege. So excited to be hosted by you. If you are tired of your child's tantrums
Do an audit and ask yourself Am I doing these 5 things? 1. Do I listen to my child with 100% attention? (Or am I distracted by my phone and other things when my child talks?) 2. Do I explain to my child why they need to do what I am saying? (Or am I just giving orders?) 3. Am I giving my child time for free play? (Or am I constantly telling my child what to do? ) 4. Am I learning the scientific way to manage my child's NO. (Or am I just shouting at my child and forcing them to do what I want? ) 5. Am I involving my child in the household chores? (Or am I distracting my child with a device or toy while I get the work done?) If you are not doing any of these things - you must start NOW!! DM me if you want to know HOW.
Does your #preschooler or #toddler have #separationanxiety?
Don't worry It is a sign that your child's brain is growing. It is also a sign that your child is developing the capacity to survive alone. Stop worrying about your child. Stop #comparing them and #criticizing them. Don't tell at them to stop their #tantrums. No there is nothing to worry about right now. But if you don't handle separation anxiety well - it can impact your child's learning. Reach out for help now. #drdebmitadutta #parentingcontentcreator #parentingexpert #parentingtoddlers #parentingpreschoolers #preschool #parentingworkshops #parentingworkshop #kidsstress #kidsworry #chidrenstress #parentingadvice #parentingclass #parentingclasses #parentingconsultant #parentingconsultations #parentingexpert #parentingskill #parentingskills #parentsandkids Dr Debmita Dutta conducted the orientation for St Joseph's Boys' High School for the 8th time27/6/2022  What an event this was!!
The orientation for the parents of the children joining LKG at the St Joseph's Boys' High School SJBHS I had the privilege of speaking to 500+ parents about the role of parenting in learning. I spoke about what exactly they need to do as parents for their children as they learn. And I was overwhelmed as they listened with rapt attention. This was the 8th year in a row I was blessed to have the opportunity to speak to parents whose children were entering this august institution on their first day there as Josephites. Thank you so much Father Sunil Cletus Fernandes I have no words to express my gratitude for this opportunity. I am blessed to be able to serve this wonderful school |
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