In my book
"How to motivate your teenager to study"
Published by Juggernaut Books(@juggernaut.in)
I share 20 tips - based on my experience of working with teens and their parents over the past 10 years.
Tip 6 is - Turn Threats into Challenges.
Is there a difference between a threat and a challenge?
Yes there is.
Challenges are motivating because they keep you focused on the rewards that success will bring.
Threats are intimidating because they keep you focused on the respect that you will lose if you fail.
Most parents I consult with - make the mistake of threatening their teens to ensure that they do what needs to be done.
And the fear that the threats create - kill motivation.
In my book I share - how you can convert threats into challenges.
If you have been struggling to motivate your teen - read this book to understand them.
This is the link https://www.amazon.in/How-Motivate-Your-Teenager-Study-ebook/dp/B099F9JJMF/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&qid=1629262147&refinements=p_27%3ADebmita%20Dutta&s=books&sr=1-1&fbclid=IwAR17l1Sp2qxVIz7USH7pjXrqkfmMR1FhSF0GoEFOQOm0PcLCs-2XjtEmYc4
Teens who feel understood will not need you to push them.
It was such a pleasure to speak at the Vidyasagar Preschool (vidyasagar.preschool) on Saturday.
The topic of the #parentingworkshop I conducted there was - "Learning during the Pandemic."
And I was completely overwhelmed by the enthusiasm of the parents who attended it.
Is learning during the pandemic different from learning otherwise?
Of course it is.
That is apparent.
Everything is different when a child is learning online.
And many parents are worried about how children are reluctant to learn in this way.
So what is the key difference between online and offline learning in the early years?
When children are learning offline - they are motivated to go to school because of the fun that it offers.
Learning abstract things like alphabets and numbers is incidental.
In the online format however, children need to be motivated to learn the abstract.
How can we help them to develop that motivation?
And how can we ensure that they stay motivated through the challenges of learning the abstract online?
I spoke on this in my workshop.
When children learn from home - we don't need to turn into teachers - we need to understand learning - so that we can create an environment that makes learning easier.
And this environment is not just about having a room or a desk.
It is about what happens at home - during before and after class hours.
It was a pleasure to work with parents who were eager to learn more about learning.
Looking forward to interacting with them again soon.
PS - Lata Dalmia (@dalmia.lata) thank you for this absolutely beautiful sari. I felt so loved in this exquisite weave.
Grabbing a crash course in the new text language...as my daughter shows me all the chats of the day with her friends.
idk wyd wbu cya ryt ikr.... And so on.....
At one time I would have disapproved and turned my nose up at all this.... But now I don't.
The world is changing...I am happy to learn the new language it uses.
In my opinion it is most important to connect and communicate.
I have learnt new languages in the past to communicate with my patients.
Now I am learning one more.
We may believe that feeding our children ensures better health because they eat more and eat what we serve
"He eats more if I feed him.
So, should I keep feeding him?
He is now 9 years old."
A mom asks me at a consultation.
"No!!! Stop immediately." I say.
Every human being must learn to listen to their body and respond to the signals appropriately.
Every human being must take responsibility for their own health.
And the first step towards that is
putting the right food into your body,
at the right time
and in the right quantity.
Ideally by 9 years - children should also be able to put together a healthy meal to satisfy their hunger.
We may believe that feeding our children ensures better health because they eat more and eat what we serve.
But in the long run it leads to poor health because of -
1. Overeating or skipped meals
2. A desire to eat junk food
3. Not developing an affinity for healthy food.
Is that what we want?
If you are feeding a child who can feed themselves - stop now.
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6 months paternal leave has recently become a reality in many organizations.
Either (both) parent can now avail 6 months of leave in the months preceeding and upto 1 year after they begin a family.
This is a very welcome move. And has the potential to change our whole world.
The intention is to ensure that
1. Mothers feel supported and are able to manage their careers better
2. Fathers can experience the joy of raising a family
3. The child gets a better start on life because of the participation of both parents in caregiving.
I love these objectives.
And I believe that this can help parents to raise children who are so emotionally secure - that parenting them becomes a completely stress free journey.
But to make this happen - parents will need the right support.
Parents will need -
1. Prenatal classes to understand their babies and their needs and how to fulfill these needs without stress. So that there is no rift in the parent child relationship.
2. Infant care classes to understand how to go through weaning and sleep training etc. So that they do not create behavioural problems like picky eating.
Without the right tools - this period of staying home can create more stress than it allays.
I hope organizations will recognize this and offer this support in addition to the leave.
If you are availing parental leave soon - do reach out. I would love to introduce you to the prenatal and infant care support that I offer.
If you are part of an organization that is offering parental leave - do reach out - I would love to support your employees too.
Looking forward to an exciting Saturday with the parents of children at the Vidyasagar Preschool (@vidyasagar.preschool)
I love the topic I am speaking on. And I am looking forward to answering your questions.
This review of my book
"How to motivate your teenager to study"
Published by Juggernaut Books
arrived this weekend...in a WhatsApp message...and had me floating on cloud nine.
I keep my books short.
Because I know parents don't have the time.
I keep my books to the point and say exactly what needs to be done.
Because when a parent spends time reading my book - I want them to be able to zero in on exactly what they will do to to change the way they parent and get the results they want from their parenting.
It is a different way of writing... Not the way one imagines a traditional book.
But I am thrilled with the feedback that is coming my way about this style of writing.
Parents are loving the fact that the books not embellished with unnecessary details and are not tedious to read.
Yes. That was exactly what I wanted to create.
A resource that makes parenting easier and not more wearying and laborious.
And I am thrilled that I have succeeded.
All my books are now also available on KINDLE.
Here is the link to the Kindle edition of all my books
Thank you everyone who has read and reviewed it.
If you read the books I would love your review too.
How do babies learn?
Have you wondered about that?
And are you eager to teach your baby everything as soon as possible?
Then this article that I have written for Morisons Baby Dreams(@morisonsbabydreams) is for you.
Find out how easy it is to teach your baby everything.
No. You don't need expensive tools and instruments.
In the past week I have had conversations with two people about food and eating...
A new mom who is unable to lose weight even though she eats almost nothing.
And a teenager who is unable to gain weight even though she eats all the time.
Through my conversations with both of them my attempt has been to help them to STOP thinking of food in terms of mere calories....And eating in terms of weight loss or weight gain.
I think it is really important that all of us begin to think this way.
Let us focus on what we are eating... Instead of how much.
What goes into what is on my plate,.. Where did it come from.... Who grew the ingredients.... Who put them together to create the dish.... And so on.
That will automatically ensure that we are eating what is good for us in every way.
Does that sound difficult?
All you need to do is make a beginning.
And you can do that with #OMBCDiscover2021 India's only healthy baking conference organised by Simran Oberoi Multani (@sim_ovenderful)
I am one of the speakers.
Find the details below
My 5 th book.
How to motivate your teenager to study.
If you are the parent of a teenager - I would recommend this book to you.
It costs INR 10/- only!!!
Get the Juggernaut app(@juggernaut.in/) - download the book and discover why your teen is not studying
And what you need to do to change that.