As I park my car and begin to make my way to the staircase in my apartment block – I hear a baby voice giving instructions...........
“Yes…..come on……flap your wings…….yes……..yes…..you’re getting it….just try……….Ohhhhhhh!…….its ok…….try again……..come on……………”
Intrigued – I make my way towards the baby voice.
As I reach the spot where the sounds are coming from – I find my neighbor's five year old daughter crouched in a corner. The voice giving encouraging instructions – is hers.
“What are doing darling?” I ask
“Aunty – this baby pigeon has fallen out of its nest” she says. “I am teaching it how to fly”
I pat the little teacher on her back to encourage her in her endeavor and then make my way up the stairs.
Ah! The beauty of being a child. I think.
The magic of believing that you can do whatever you put your mind to.
The power of being enveloped in positive self-esteem and believing that you are invincible.
Children are born fearless – they believe they are all powerful – they are convinced that they are capable of just anything.
Then why as they grow – do they lose faith in themselves? Why do they begin to think they are not good at this – or can’t do that?
Is it because we do nothing to keep their positive self-esteem alive?
Well here are 4 things that you can do to build your child’s self esteem
Never tell children – “Oh you can’t do that.” Or “That is impossible – no one can do that.” You never know where effort and persistence can take you.
Always say – “I like it that you tried so hard”
Would you attempt a song in public – if you aren’t a good singer? Would you run a race even if you knew you were going to come last? If you answer these questions with a ‘no’ – then you need to build your own self esteem. Building your own self esteem will help you discover how self-esteem is really built – and then you will be able to help your child build his or hers
Helping your child to build positive self-esteem is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child.
When you build healthy self-esteem into a child – you have a cheerful optimistic socially well-adjusted child – who is aware of his weaknesses but not intimidated by them.
No challenge is too great for a child with healthy self-esteem.
So if there is one thing you vow to do today for your child – vow to build his/her self-esteem – begin RIGHT NOW!!