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 This memory popped up on FB this morning
And I was overwhelmed with gratitude for being able to help. This was the WhatsApp status of a parent who had consulted with me a few months ago... and I saw it as soon as I woke up one morning. Thank You is the only word I can think of So grateful that I am able to help  On Tuesday 28th September 2021
At 5 PM I will be LIVE in conversation with Moya Caddy (@moyacaddy) On the Super Mums of India FB group We will be talking about my new book "What to do when your child is a picky eater" Published by Juggernaut Books (@juggernaut.in) You can read it here https://www.amazon.in/What-Your-Child-Picky-Eater-ebook/dp/B09D3HVPKZ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1 Do join in with any questions that you may have about your child's nutrition or eating habits. I would love to answer them.  Put the text
This was thrilling We made it to the YourStory list of "12 emerging ventures in Bangalore to look out for" And we have been growing since then…  I am thrilled to share this 🙂
Moya Caddy(@moyacaddy) is someone I love dearly. She is one of the most genuine and kind human beings I have ever met. And I am jumping with joy at this opportunity to speak to her LIVE about my latest book on her amazing community Super Mums of India Children not wanting to eat healthy food..... Children only eating junk food..... Is such a big problem in today's world. I am looking forward to taking all the questions there are on this topic and on nutrition in general at the LIVE Next Tuesday the 28th of September 2021 is the date and time. See you there Do read the book and ask me questions. This is the link to the book https://www.amazon.in/What-Your-Child-Picky-Eater-ebook/dp/B09D3HVPKZ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1 He has started saying "You don't love me."
The parents of a 10 year old tell me at a consultation. "That of course is definitely not true." They clarify. "We have to say NO to some things like junk food or device use. But that makes him feel that we don't love him. What should we do?" Loving actions from parents - making children feel unloved is a common problem in parenting. And it can sometimes feel like a dead end. Where your love - is received by your child as punishment. And you give in to what they want to do because you cannot bear to be accused of not loving your child. But it doesn't have to go on like that. There are ways to say NO and be firm with discipline without making your child feel unloved. There are ways to SHOW love such that your child constantly SEES it around them. But step 1 is to recognize that your child means what he is saying. He is really feeling unloved. Don't say "Of course I love you." And carry on. Reach out for help and commit to change yourself to SHOW love. It is possible.  In my years of conducting #prenatalclasses I have seen that almost no one prepares their breasts for breastfeeding.
Find out how to prepare your breasts for the 24x7 work that they will need to do when your baby is born in my article for Morisons Baby Dreams https://www.smartmums.in/breast-care-during-pregnancy/?fbclid=IwAR3roLevs0VWL4POLB2B93cHREDntU39OsFBYLNXCoDdphSNGLIHd7_P8l4  Even when you surround your child with healthy food...
Even after you turn into a veritable master chef in your attempt to provide healthy and tasty food to your child.... You may still find your child insisting on eating junk food. Why? I answer this question in my latest book "What to do if your child is a picky eater." Published by Juggernaut Books (@juggernaut.in) And I explain what you can do to decrease the craving for junk food. I will be conducting a pre-conference workshop on the topic of picky eating - with inputs that are specific to baking for all the delgates of OMBCDiscover 2021(@ovenderfulmombakers) in November 2021. The workshop is called "Baking for Picky Eaters" I am looking forward meeting all the amazing bakers who are changing the world - one amazing bake at a time. Thank you Simran Oberoi Multani(@sim_ovenderful) for the opportunity. This is the link to the book. https://www.amazon.in/What-Your-Child-Picky-Eater-ebook/dp/B09D3HVPKZ/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&qid=1631619822&refinements=p_27%3ADebmita%20Dutta&s=books&sr=1-1&fbclid=IwAR0iz6BKJSiQaW0uWslSscW7r27V8wjl2xDtufDpOqVFtel8TsUPMRbnuNA Please register for the conference if you are interested in the workshop. Registration link for the entire Conference - https://www.instamojo.com/@ovenderfulmombakers/lc5d0d5d1516b46688f19c78baf40a2bf/?fbclid=IwAR0N8STtZMFvyWrr7JauSmA5E8QKZie4lHOgh3zZBI-q2395ReFH-BLm6Dc Last date for registration 31st October  "You need to trust him."
I tell the parent of a teen at a consultation. "How can I trust him? He keeps lying?" The mom replies. I find that many parents think like this. And sadly it leads to more lying - More instances of the child doing things that the parents don't want the child to do fights - tears - anxiety - frustration and exasperation. In my opinion this is the wrong way to aproach a relationship with anyone - especially a child - who is still learning how to balance desires with duties and rights with responsibilities. Trust is the foundation of any relationship You cannot begin a relationship if you don't trust the other person. Trust is the main investment you make in your relationship with your child. You cannot expect your child to earn your trust by performing to satisfy your expectations. Always trust your child's desire and intention to do the right thing. That is what motivates children to live up to your expectations in spite of the challenges posed by their growing brains and bodies. Begin with trust and watch your child transform. I have many many many stories to relate where I have put my trust in a teenager whom no one else trusted and she/he has transformed into someone worth trusting. These were not my children and yet my trust - conveyed from a distance worked like magic. Imagine what you could do with your child.  "Should I leave my job?"
This is a question I am asked by many of the moms I consult with When they find that things are going wrong with their child. And they see their children throwing tantrums and crying when they are away at work. Yesterday I was asked this question by another mom whom I was consulting with. My answer always is another question "Do you want to work?" And like every other mother I have ever consulted with she said "I am not sure. If my working is going to emotionally scar my child, I don't want to work. But otherwise I do." My take "You need to decide if you want to work. And you need to clearly understand your reasons for working. If you really want to work - don't quit. Because making sacrifices always builds resentment. And that will impact your relationship with your child." "But I can't bear to see him cry." She said "Let's work to put together a strategy to ensure that he doesn't cry." I say. Is it possible? Oh yes it is. I have been working with moms who want to go back to work for 10 years now. And it has worked every time. The key is empathy, compassion, honesty and vulnerability. Everyone cooperates when the above 4 things are applied to an interaction. Even a less than one-year-old child. Success stories abound. Make sure you are one of them. When I presented my work on overcoming maternal guilt and achieving a work life balance at World Congress on Women in 2019. I was applauded profusely for it by the Kiran Bedi Ma'am ( then Lt Governor of Puducherry). She spoke to me at length about the importance of my work and encouraged me to forge ahead on my chosen path. Thank you Ma'am.  Happy Teachers Day to all the wonderful teachers I know.
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